So I've written before that SS11 announced he's transgender. We don't think he is. The therapist he saw a couple of times doesn't think he is. We don't have a problem either way but we're not on board with hitting the gas pedal without real knowledge, research and professional support.

BM and her parents spoil him rotten (he got $1500 worth of stuff for "graduating" 5th grade last week) and treat him like the golden one.

So, SS11 is almost through with 5th grade, which means he has a graduation ceremony to celebrate the end of elementary school. Fine. I'm not a big fan of graduations but I was planning to go and got the time off (it's on a Monday morning). Turns out, he gets four guests. DH got a text from BM saying SS told her he wants her, DH and BM's parents there. She told him I needed to be one of the four and he started arguing so she just told him to talk to DH.

So recently I blogged about DH finding food (or evidence thereof) in SS11's room, despite our "no food or drink upstairs" rule. He was livid. Of course, by the time SS came back to our house he had cooled some. He had a talk with SS about the rule and keeping his room clean, then confiscated electronics until he'd cleaned the room.

I was annoyed -- talking does nothing. And he got the electronics back a couple of hours later.

I've blogged a lot about my frustration with DH and is permissiveness with SS11. Things bug him or there are problematic behaviors, but he can't be bothered to do much about it because he doesn't want to have to deal with SS getting emotional or being difficult. This, in turn, just drives me nuts, though I've been working on distancing myself emotionally and making progress.