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What is so wrong with spending the weekend apart? You be with your kids and I'll be with mine.

RustyHalo's picture

This weekend we're supposed to go camping. Okay, sounds great, but my 16 y/o BD is not feeling well and she gets kinda bored when we go camping anyway. Usually, she'll just stay home and we go without her, but this weekend I would rather stay with her and let FH go with the skids. Whenever we go camping all I ever hear is "can we drive the golf cart?" "can we go to the store?" "whose turn is it to drive the golf cart?" "she drove the last time!" "she drove for 42 more seconds than I did!"

new to ST- need some advice- kinda long

tooyoung4this's picture

Hi!
First of all, wow! I didn't know there was a place for this but I'm sooo glad there is!
I've been married a year and a half and am getting a little fed up with the Skid situation. Please see bio.
I think there should be a little more respect for boundaries and a little more truth for the kids in regards to who belongs to whom, what that implies. and I'm not talking spilling all the dirty details, but I think kids are a lot smarter than we give them credit for.

Feeling like the bad guy

RKES's picture

Every Saturday my SS has a soccer game, and my husband makes a point to attend all of them. However this Saturday I have a memorial service to attend and I would like my husband to be there. My SS lives with his BM primary and comes to see us every other weekend, this weekend he is with her. When I expressed my feeling to my husband he said he feels like I'm making him choose between his son and me. I hate feeling like some how I'm the bad guy because I need my husband. I feel like my husband and his ex-wife are the one that broke their family up.

90% ready to move on

tougher than I thought's picture

I think I am getting extremely close to moving on with my life. At times I think the bleneded family concept was never for me, but at other times I feel like my wife has not at all supported me or renforced the fact that we can do this together. I know I am a good loving Man, but cannot give all I have to an unloving, unemotional, unaffectionate and unkind woman. This is some peoples personality make-up....I understand that, however does that mean to accept and endure...I'm not sure about that!

Does CS include school lunches? A little long.

yesican's picture

My dh is paying cs, now his checks total a whopping $904.00 a month to go towards or monthly bills, food, etc. Well BM has been providing lunches on Wednesday nights (our night for visitation) to take to school on Thursday morning. She informed DH last night, in front of the kids, that he needs to provide their lunches on Thursday's because it is his day. We live in Kansas and our court order only states cs and medical expenses (60% of what is not covered).

Money makes the world go around?

Storm76's picture

As someone that got into debt and pulled herself out (18 months now without a debt to my name bar the student loan!) I can be quite touchy about money, especially the amount that my OH can spend on his son.

Reading some of the blogs & forum posts on here it's clear to me that money can often be an issue in blended families - some kids may have more material things than others, arguments over paying out of joint accounts for big items for skids etc.

Our Anniversary, preparing for The Wookie's call

onehappygirl's picture

Mine and DH's anniversary is Monday. Last year, The Wookie who NEVER texts DH, sent him a series of texts and pictures one evening, two days before our anniversary date. While sitting there wondering what the hell, it dawned on us that she thought it was our anniversary and was being spiteful. We actually thought it was pretty funny.

So that means, she will be calling Saturday night.

This year, I'm ready! I intend to either text back or call her and tell her that DH is busy, has his hands and mouth full and can't be bothered.

Does BM Have Right to Babysitter's Personal Info?

mother.to.none's picture

Small bit of background since this is my very first post: I have 2 stepkids (ss8 & sd12) of whom my husband has 50% custody. Their mother is a nightmare who has a history of scaring away decent babysitters with her antics (general craziness, not paying them, etc).

I work from home and we recently hired a college student to pick the kids up from school and help with homework (I guess that's usually called a mother's helper). When BM found out, she demanded to know the girl's personal contact information and DH refused to give it to her.

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