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DOES ANYONE HAVE A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH THEIR SKIDS?

mommommom's picture

I have a wonderful relationship with my SD, despite BM's stupidity. BM was not stupid up until she got married recently now it is constantly something, but I do not let that affect my relationship with SD. Does anyone else have a great relationship with their SKid or SKids? I mean truly a wonderful relationship where you consider your SKid to be yours regardless of being a bio parent or not. I hear so many horror stories and just hope and pray that my relationship with SD doesn't end up like that. No offense to anyone.

I think I have made a decision

MeanOleMe's picture

I am leaving my DH. I have a custody agreement written out, that I hope he will agree to out of court. I think he will, only because neither of us has the money to go to court, but I am not sure. I just don't know when to tell him, or when to leave. Our one year is in less then a week, and we have plans to go out of town. I feel heartless to tell him now, and cancel those plans, but feel like a bitch to let him think we are OK through that. Then, Christmas is right around the corner, but then SD14's b-day is not too long after that.

No longer a parent of a single Daughter

masterwatcher12's picture

I was raised around women\girls and learned alot of my manerisms from them on how to deal with Girls. Don'g get me wrong I have no bi-sexual tendancies and guys are great to hang around with play ball with, talk about Sports with, Technical issues with, although women do that well too. However my whole life has been centered around dealing with women, and then I get married for a second time and when I have a second child she is girl too.

Help ! Does anyone know Illinois chld support info, BM is on the warpath again

artsymom's picture

She said that the 1st mom gets more...huh? They were never married. She also said that he has to pay CS plus half expenses and daycare. So confused. And he is responsible for college and all extra cirricular activities. She already gets 28% of income and now we have a baby so H and I are a family of 5 not including skids. Wont the judge take that into consideration. HEEELLLLPPP

In Laws.....

TryingToParent's picture

Tomorrow is my anniversary. DH and I have been married a year. Our wedding was not the 'traditional' type with cake and gifts and bad food....we were married on the beach in Antigua, just us. We decided that our entire lives were going to be about our children, and we wanted one week to be about us. SO...when we got married, everyone knew. We didn't keep it a secret, we told everyone, and explained that we wanted a private wedding. We didn't expect much at all in the way of gifts, but I would have thought a card, at least was in order.

I know this has been done and asked alot, BUT, do your Skids call you mom?

BMJen's picture

If my SD called me mom my eyes would bugg out of my head, hit the floor, roll around, catch on fire, and then explode. Once I got beyond that I would seriously have a issue with it. I see her EOW and sometimes through the week. I'm not her mom. I am a parent to her.....but I think mom and dad titles should be reserved for the mom and dad.

Now, just so you know, I know many of you have had your skids since birth pratically and that you've raised them.....okay, I can see that and understand that you aren't just being called mom, you are mom!

To call or not to call......

TryingToParent's picture

Since we have blended families the sks have on occasion asked to call BM. I noticed that it would be after a long stretch away, particularly in down times. We have never restricted this, ever. We never wanted them to feel it's an "us against her" situation. We have pretty good communication with BM. So since the schedule change (see previous blog for details) we have noticed that the kids are asking to call more and we have been allowing it.

Stressing about Holiday schedule with my EX...

FutureSM's picture

need some advice....

How do most people do holidays? As some of you may know, my BD4 has been with me since she was born, her dad has been in prison from my pregnancy until April of this year. They have begun EOW visits and it's going okay, she is adjusting, although she is not too happy about going there. He and I have not discussed the upcoming Thanksgiving or Christmas holidays...and I know this is the point where I have to start sharing her......lol.......but it's hard. What's "NORMAL" and how should I bring up an arrangement to him? THANKS!

Does your family eat dinner together everyday?

yesican's picture

I know life gets crazy...but I was wondering how many of your families sit down and eat together as a family daily? At our home we do everyday. I even shut the TV off because the girls, especially my oldest bd likes to watch it. We make that our daily family time, we talk with the girls, find out about their day, and just laugh and joke too. The girls really seem to like it. My sd's also comment that we take time like that with them, bm doesn't sit with the kids and eat with them, they say bm doesn't really interact with them that much, you can see that they really desire that.

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