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IT DOESNT SEEM TO BE GETTING ANY BETTER!!!!

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Submitted by longbeachgirl on Wed, 10/07/2009 - 11:20am

It has been almost 6 months since my step daughter came to live with us. Things dont seem to be improving. This child came from a home where she was left alone alot and was able to pretty much do whatever she wanted....whenever she wanted.

Now she comes here to rules, and structure, and schedules. Obviously things arent going well. All I keep hearing is "Well my mom let me do it" Do I give a shit what your mom did or didnt do!!! NO!!!!! This is MY house and MY rules!!!

Well things can only go up from here right?

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Submitted by Thetis on Wed, 10/07/2009 - 11:14am

What a week, already! I quit. I want to curl up in a ball and just cry untill there is nothing left of the stress and pain.
Saturday I was at my best friend's house. She lives with a 57 year old man who is like a father to her. He opened his arms to her whole family (4 kids, her fiance and herself) This says alot about charactor. Her two oldest were visiting their father at an on-suite thing at her mothers house. (He is a known user who is claiming to be clean). Her room mate came home from work early and went to bed at 630ish. By 7pm he was snoring.

Good points about being a stepmum

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Submitted by Storm76 on Wed, 10/07/2009 - 9:14am

Chatting to my OH last night he mentioned that he went to his 2nd choice university cos his grades weren't high enough, and if he had his life would be completely different as he would have moved to another city, never have met BM or me.

I realised that much as I never set out to be with someone who had a child already, without his son he wouldn't be the man he is today, and so would I have met him and if so, fallen in love with him?

So, here's my list of the good points of being a stepmum:

What makes us different than them? SM's vs BM's

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Submitted by BMJen on Tue, 10/06/2009 - 9:24pm

It was brought up on another site that I'm a member of that "the same guys that picked us, also picked them once". Wow. Does that sentence not speak volumes? Really, when you get right down to it, the same man that loves "us" (sm's) also once, in alot of cases, loves them (bm's). So the same man, with the same values, the same preferences, the same pretty much everything chose two totally different people? Wonder why that is? Or do we have more in common with BM than we care to admit?

Quiet... is nice!

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Submitted by Freedom2005 on Tue, 10/06/2009 - 7:00pm

So, things have been quiet for me and my home for a few weeks. Not to many complaints. Well, I came up with a few, and when I talked to BF about them.... well, I got a different perspective.

When he told me that I was just finding things to fight about and I should just relax... "it is OK if the dishes don't get done EVERY night!!"

I took a day or 2 to think about it. It was a good thing. I understand why I am doing it now after talking to the counselor...

BM keeps changing weekends

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Submitted by alwaysme on Tue, 10/06/2009 - 6:35pm

At least once every 2 months bitch face BM changes the access weekends which is an absolute inconvenience for me because then i have to change my BS over to the same weekends because we try to have all the kids at the same time, Not only that but i make plans for my free weekends only to have DH call and say "we have the kids this weekend can you have them cos i have to work on saturday" because BM is doing god knows what either working to make her herself money or whatever.

I don't know why I am remembering this but it is funny stuff... Please post your humble moments with your kids.

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Submitted by Jon-Boy on Tue, 10/06/2009 - 4:20pm

It's a brisk Sunday morning at a gas station.
I had to drive across town to go get my youngest son from G-ma's
I am running a little late for church, and also need to stop for gas. and while I am pumping gas my kids ask me if they can get a snack before church.
I usually do not allow this but I was hungry and running late.
So I leave the pump and we all go in and get some snacks. Smile

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