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Do you ever feel cheated as a second wife?

stepoff's picture

DH and I had a discussion regarding his family. I told him how I felt about not being able to open up to his side of the family for fear of BM finding things out. BM is still in contact with many of his family members.

I feel cheated because BM had it all going for her as his first wife. She didn't have to deal with the drama of being "second wife".

Just a few of the reasons I feel cheated:

Cinderella

Storm76's picture

We all got read this story, watched the films etc when we were younger, and no doubt many of us read it to our kids too. It's probably the best known depiction of the evil stepmother, so here's my little re-telling of the story from the SM perspective.

A widow with 2 daughters struggles to bring them up on her own, when she meets a widower with 1 daughter of his own. They fall in love & get married to try and form a blended family.

Hi Ho, Hi Ho, It's off to work I go,....... (and no more free nanny service for BM/DH!)

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It's official...I started back to work this week. This will be a rude awakening for BM, and perhaps DH a little too. After DH and I got married, I quit my job to be home with our new baby daughter. Of course, that meant that I became the full time primary parent to the skids (9 and 12) who we have 50/50 placement of. So for the last two and a half years, I have been the one who gets up with the skids to get them to school, gets homework done, takes care of scouts/football/4H/band etc., gets the skids to bed, feeds them supper and cleans up after their less than grateful selves.

DH to visit SD in college-but we cant afford it

livinthedream's picture

Ive been cutting every corner around here financially & DH tells me he's going 3 states away to see SD for the weekend. He tells me its ok relax.Im starting to realize that here I am living on this budget & he is doing the exact opposite. Im looking at the silver lining in all of this...he will be out of my hair that entire weekend & so will his kids!!!

I'm flabbergasted and just pissed off!

EvilStephMom's picture

Hi everyone! I'm new to posting but have been reading/lurking for awhile now and have really enjoyed all the conversations. A little background on me; I've never been married, but was with my ex-BF for 10 years and then still really good friends after the split. We had 50/50 custody of his daughter (I came in the picture when she was 5) until she was 12 then full custody after that. We split up when she was 16. Her and I have always been close and I was still very active in her life after we split. Currently, I'm engaged to a wonderful man with 2 sons.

Objections from SS6

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It seems that every time my SS6, Ched comes here for his weekend, & when Sunday rolls around, he expresses he doesn't want to go back to Mommy's house. He doesn't throw a fit, but he does get sad, tears start and he just looks so forlorn. It's almost heart breaking to witness this.

What we say to him is that if we had our choice, he would stay with us all the time, because we love it when he comes to see us (which is true!)

The Judge says we have to take him back to Mommy's house, or daddy will get in BIG trouble with mommy.

What changed in stepparenting?

southernbelle's picture

So, I was talking to my father the other day (an adventure unto itself) and found out that almost all of my grandparents & great grand parents had a stepmother or stepfather. Since my grandparents were born in 1917, we are talking around the turn of the century. Some of them were from death, but the majority were divorce or abandonment. So, given that step families seem to be very common a century ago, what has changed that makes them appear to be so much harder to deal with today?

A cell phone and that sinking feeling.

BettyRay's picture

BM bought SS12 a cell phone. It’s only for emergencies. *Right*

I knew it was coming, so did DH.

DH’s spin on it:

She’s paying for it. DH is waiting for the 1st $200 bill so he can say, “not my phone not my problem” }:)

Its good SS12 has a way of contacting us in an emergency.

DH is happy he doesn’t have to talk to BM as much.

Here’s my spin on it:

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