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I'm liking BM more than DH lately. This is the strangest thing. DH called me today "just to say hi" he literally just wanted to say hi then he hung up. He can talk to BM for 20 or 30 minutes a freakin day for 4 months, but now he can't even talk to me for 5 minutes on my lunch break. At least he hasn't talked to BM for 3 days. That makes me happy. I've even looked at the phone bill (didn't tell him I was going to be doing that). He actually hasn't called her and she hasn't called him in 3 days.
Hello out there! I'm new to this sort of thing,so please bear with me. After a whirlwind relationship I became married once again, with a nice lady and her 9 year old son. The biological father was abusive i'm told and does not talk to his son or pay child support that I am aware of. I find that rehensible as I have 3 children from a previous marriage and pay support for my daughter as my sons have reached the age of emancipation. Hey just my opinion but biological fathers should support their children!
DH,
I love you so very much. I love your daughter too. But, you know, BioParent or Step Parent, adults need to be with other adults sometimes and not talk about kids - period.
Sometimes, let's just be together and talk about what happend at work, and where we want to travel when we retire, and watch boring news shows that teenagers think are stupid. We don't ALWAYS have to talk about SD or her crazy mama.
SD16 is going to a career center, and elected to take the hardest class possible. She is LD, and I knew she wouldn't be able to do it. I don't say that meanly at all, but it is what it is. I told DH this before she started. He ignored me. BM was off telling everyone SD16 was going to be doctor. :O So I went out and spent about $200 on the supplies needed for the class. Well guess what??? After 3 weeks in... the teacher set a note home saying they don't she can do it, and needs to transfer classes ASAP as there is only one day left for transfers. So now...
It has been a while since my last entry. The adult, Lazy SD Princesses still are not out of my house, but I believe their day is coming. They were both out of town over the weekend when my husband asked if his SD from his first marriage (he raised her) could come to stay for 2-days during the week. She is 35 and her SM is having heart surgery and she wants to stop by and visit us on her journey to her SM's house. I said that was fine, but when were his Lazy SD Princesses going to move out of my house. My husband gave the usual "soon".
BBB's blog got me thinking (thank you) that I have allowed BM waaaay too much control over my emotions. I am ashamed to say that as a Mental Health Professional I should know better, but I suppose it's easier to dish the advice than take it, right? The thing is, BM will NEVER change (or at least no one except for BM can MAKE her change), so whether I am angry, sad, fearful etc. Bm will still just be BM. I have allowed myself to become a martyr that gets angry when others take advantage of me, whether that is the skids, BM , or even DH. I cannot continue to do that anymore.
I've got some of the basic stuff in there but I'm not really sure what you need when you get to the hospital and every list seems to be different. Help would be great
I saw this & immediately thought of BM & her sucking down the pixie sticks at SD9's birthday two years ago. (Meanwhile, lecturing the kids on how bad high fructose corn syrup was!)
http://store.cottonfactory.com/cf-1220.html
My son is almost 11 his (sperm donor) had just started paying child support in feb. of this year. It stopped in June because apparently the SD foot was rotting off or something idk. Of course he never told me I had to text and ask why I wasn't receiving cs. I check my space from time to time to see if he mentions being back at work. I happend to check his little gf's and supposedly they just got engaged on sat. I don't care about that but she's bragging about the ring. Hello how did he buy that if he can't even pay cs and is living with mommy again?
After reflecting back on the court case last week, and issues DH and I have had to deal with BM (DH for 6 years - myself for about 2 years - since she met me and we got married)
I have come to a couple realizations..... and have decided to stop allowing BM into my marriage and home emotionally.... She will no longer be a topic of discussion on any type of regular basis... at all!
DH and myself have spent so much energy on trying to figure her out, trying to keep her at least peaceful, and discussing her and her actions. Well, no more.
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