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Please go in and report the spammers on the site...Just click on their name and report as offensive. Maybe if enough flag they will be removed and we can see the real posts....It is getting really annoying.
So a couple weeks ago BM was in a "serious car accident" involving a "police coverup" that she was probably "going to sue the police department over" and she "couldnt drive" because her "back was sooo messed up".
The accident was on a Sunday night. Shes supposed to drop off on Thursday evenings. Plenty of time to figure out something right? nope. She got MIL to drive SS down here that Thursday night at 8 pm (its about an hour drive back and forth) when MIL works a 6am -3 shift.
Wow! This is not getting any easier. I'm hurt emotionally. Tired emotionally and physically. I'm losing it. The SS is manipulative and lying and I'm the only one here to have to "fix" it since Husband works all day. I don't know what to do! I was told that I make things difficult but no one is telling me what I'm supposed to do. I have tried grounding, going to bed early, and spankings. The spankings I don't mind doing but he acts like I'm killing him. (Spankings = slap on the wrist). I've gotten calls from his teacher and I'm supposed to handle it. Call her back. Set up meetings.
I have one SS6 that we have about 50/50. His mom has always had health problems, and most recently her heart has not been well. She was in the hospital about 6 months ago for a few days, and now they're scheduling her to get a pacemaker/difibrulator.
Now that we have no contact with SD15 all DH has is Facebook. Well the child that BM wanted to have so she could take care of her, since all we did was micromanage her, she is now asking her to come home on Facebook. She actually put on Facebook that she needed to come home. Funny remark was "Mom I am in the house". Her friends all laughed about it. But, really you have no clue where your child is? DH told SS13 about it and they laughed and made fun of BM that she has no clue. My comment is great parenting...
My DH handles all the issues with CS. We keep our finances separate and each have our own checking account, but we file joint taxes.
If BM were to take us back to court would my income be figured in to his CS calculation? I know that everything differs by state, but what is the norm there? I just don't know.
Thanks!
We get home from running errands. DH gets out of the car and starts walking SS2 to the door. I get the mail and then start across the driveway toward the house.
Then BM pulls into our driveway at our 30 miles per hour and stops about a foot away from me. She gets out, looks directly at me, and says "you guys forgot SS5" in an obviously pissed off way.
Bang. I suddenly remember that it is early release day (which means it is DH's day to pick SS5 up, not mine). I look at DH and say to him "why didn't they call you?"
BM looks at me and says "They did!"
Not sure if any of you have a subscription to the National Geographic but this month's issue's feature is on Teenage Brains, specifically "The new science of the Teenage Brain" and is actually a damn interesting read.
The studies they base their hypotheses on suggest that teens value the reward more than they fear a consequence. I had a mental image of training my dog - she values the food treat more than my anger any day. Not likening my children to dogs though, this was just the simplest example my brain conjured up.
The exact quote I found intriguing is:
Yeah you know...but it's still frustrating. We dont get any information. BM sits home on the couch and the papers come to her...she can sit there and smoke and read the little fliers and then throw them out never giving them a second thought...and never thinking maybe she could let DH or I know. I have to be diligent and check websites regularly, call and make appointments for DH, and stay on top of it....parenting events get to just happen to her.
My SS15 makes me sick! His mother has custody of him and his younger brothers, SS13 & SS8, and my FH pays a hefty amount of child support.