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Hi all. Here's the scenario that I'm hoping someone has an answer about. We couldn't reach our attorney today and this is driving me nuts.
March 2011: DH asked BM if she would take SSs for weekend of 10/14-10-16 (this coming weekend) so that we could attend a wedding. She agreed and wrote it into their "handshake" (non-legally binding) schedule, that she would have the boys that weekend.
August 2011: BM, pissed about a chain of events that she made up, reneged on taking the boys this coming weekend. Texted DH and told him to find a sitter.
Well, SD11 asks father if she can go to Jr. high football game on Friday night, the game was Saturday morning. He says no he has to work. She ask can she walk to school and go by herself. WTF, are you kidding me, child thinks she's grown. Anyway,the game started a 8 AM and there was no one else willing to take her. Since I have disengaged I did not offer. Sad thing, I would have enjoyed going, but why should I change so she can get what she wants. Maybe she will start thinking now!!!!
BM actually showed up for her visitation (she was late no shock there) DH and I pick the kids up from the visit (it was supervised by DHs "mom" long story there) and the kids were acting cagey which we expected. Saturday was alright, as was most of Sunday, until Sunday night. The kids were playing a game and arguing about every little thing. Finally DH told them "next argument game gets put away" well 15 minuets later there was an argument.
My husband and I celebrated our Childs 1st birthday along with his oldest kids birthday. We had my family come and His family come for one birthday party. My side doesn't normaly buy gifts for his kids when it is there birthday because we don't invite them do to his kids and my side not being close. I agreed to not getting our 1 yearold a gift and getting his child a gift because my husband said our 1 yearold would never know the difference and his kid being older would be hurt. We are very tight on money and live on a budget!!
I am thinking about this situation and trying to determine if it would ever really work or if it would always be a source of hurt.
This concept in which my SO leads basically two lives. One with me, whatever that leads to and one with his daughter. It seems like he has determined that the best way to avoid conflict is to just keep these two lives seperated as much as possible.
Just wondering...
Most NC families end up having the talk about CS with skids at some point. I would like to hear about some of your experiences and how BM handled it when she heard.
And just returned it - 2.5 years later! I am so creeped out by this because BM is the one that moved out so that means she had to have taken it with her. She left a ton of stuff (junk) behind but took things that don't make sense, of course she moved out when BF wasn't home and has since been 'returning' things a little at a time. I few months ago she returned some pictures of BF and HIS family, now his birth certificate? What's next?
This woman is like obsessed with 'holding' on to him. It's no wonder her new husband stares at BF when they are at work.
BM gets skid 3 weekends a month. Each time she sends him home in pajamas. This time for once he wore his normal clothes home. She also likes to spoil the snot out of skid and take him to mcdonalds for all his meals. This kid doesn't play with what he has in his room and also has a heart condition. Skid now comes home with toys from BM's house and then the next week tells us that BM wants him to bring them back. This time it's a water bottle that skid hasn't used since Christmas.
DH got served last night...BM is taking us back to court for child support and, get this, is trying to have us ordered to allow her to go on welfare!
DH and I have 60/40 custody of the kids with us being 60%...we do and always have paid for half of everything for the kids. BM decided that she wanted to have several more kids with her new boyfriend and be a stay at home mom and now wants us to pay her support so she can afford to.
I started a new job so I don’t have as much time for Steptalk – which is good and bad of course
Thankfully I haven’t had a ton to vent about....until today!
I love how BM has no qualms about admitting openly that she can’t stand having to parent for longer than a week at a time.
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