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Hello.
I am new at this. I decided to join because I have been feeling very stresses and depressed lately. I am a stepmother of two boys 13 and 11. My fiance's ex-wife is trying really hard to break our relationship. I feel that my friends do not understand me much because they are not in the same situation. I love my fiance and his kids but lately I am wondering if it's worth it to go through so much pain. Thank you.
Ok, so my DH over compensates constantly for BM's lack of parenting. BM gives no discipline or shows no love towards SS. All discipling has to be done at our house, DH has talked to BM many times about situations that have arisen at school or daycare where SS would come home with disciplinary notes to see what BM has done to try and correct the issue and say or we talked about it and that would be it.
I'm sick of this situation, I'm sick of living with someone's elses mess. I will not allow this woman (his ex) to constantly attack me and my family, and given that my husband refuses to go to extremes necessary to protect his family from the verbal and emotional attacks we go through every day.
OK, here goes the school story, which is causing a lot of fights/anger/annoyance between the "D"H and me.
When I was still insane and determined to stay with the whole clan at the end of last school year, I knew that SD would be going from middle school to high school...where my oldest son was last year, and will be for the next few years.
Well, my son always had an issue with that. SD drives him up the wall and he wants NOTHING to do with the girl.
After hearing all of you out and investigating how I really feel about the whole situation, I have decided not to write the SD a letter. I am afraid I can't offer any closure or comfort of any kind.
I tried several times to do it, but it always seemed like too much, not enough, dishonest, too honest, etc. There is no happy medium. Par for the course, I suppose, considering there was never a happy medium in our household.
Please help if you have any suggestions I would gladly welcome them.
What is it with Bio parents that they never communicate unless they want something? I try to let my ex know everthing that is going on with my kids from Dr apts to school functions yet DH ex never lets us know anything for instance today SD6 had an appointment with the heart Dr (she has a problem since she was born and goes once a year) but BM never let us know about it. We found out because DH parents were suppose to have SD6 for the day and her mom called and told them she forgot SD6 had an appointment and asked if they wanted her Thursday instead.
hi to all, for those that have read my previous blogs you'll know that my sd and i have grown together...
i was talking to a friend recently who has just become a step mother of a 3 year old boy and a 6 year old girl and she was telling me of the differences between just dating her new hubby to now being in the family house. she said her and the little one get on like a house on fire and yet the 6 year old wont even look at her let alone listen to her or follow any instructions given by her.
i know each of us all have our own limits and pet annoyences be it with our partners, our friends and family, our children, our step children and then external people but what are some of the things you simply can not stand be it bad language you know like the f word, or is it being rude, ignoring another, trashing bed rooms, cutting you off in lines at the store...
lets have it out what really gets you going and how do you try to cope when its been done?
i'll start some of my pet pevs are:
By many contributors here is our story so far....
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