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I have a 7 and 11 year old SD. Me and bf have been married 3 years and I still have a hard time with this step parenting thing. A lot of people tell me that I am supposed to love my sd as my own, I do love them so much, but I don't know if I love them as I would love my own. It is so hard for me because I can't talk to my husband about it because i'm afraid it may hurt him. He is so close to his daughters. Is this because I don't have children of my own?? Does having children of your own help you to be a good step parent because you already know what you're doing??
i just got a call from ex bf's 10yr old daughter. she called to say she missed me and she was sad i was gone and she wants me to come back. she said 'we love you here. please come back'. my hear melted. i almost started crying.
i told her that us adults can be so silly with our adult stuff and that her father and i were working on 'stuff' to see if we can make that happen. she said 'ok, but don't take too long, i miss you. your car is sitting here in the drive way and you need to drive it.' i asked her if her father put her up to it and she said no. i really believe her.
My step dad is jealous of my relationship with my mother & wants me to go away. Hmm. So, I guess the way I see it, he wants to rob me of my relationship with my mother & is frustrated that he can't. And because he's married to her, he thinks it is his right.
From a step parent's point of view, do you think that is right? I know it's harsh, but this is what it really feels like. Maybe that's the reason his crappy attitude bothers me so much, because usually I am indifferent to people who don't like me.
Feedback would be appreciated.
my part of the issues here. I know I'm not a perfect step mom, I realize that, I've completely admitted to it and own up to it and I don't pretend to be perfect. I continuously let DH and the SKs know that I'm working on it and will always work on it. BUT why am I the only one owning up to having issues? Why am I the only one NOT pretending to be perfect?? Why am I the only one who is trying to grow as a person? When does everyone else own up to their issues? When does everyone else start to work on themselves? When does everyone else AT LEAST admit that they aren't perfect?
now that I feel better, I think I will go shopping. I will try to enjoy my day since I am not looking forward in meeting her tomorrow to pick up the kids for our weekend.
I will pray for her, lets just hope that I don't chip a tooth from gritting my teeth!!!
She can do no wrong, apparently, my SD (16). Not even when she is caught out lying, trying to get my BD (14) into trouble, usually trivial things, but her Dad just ignores it as just being her. Now my BD is practically living with her BF along with my older BD(16)who chose not to move in with us 6 months ago, although she does now visit. I find myself so angry that my fiance lets her away with so much, and now I am living here in a house we bought together 6 months ago, without my own girls, but with his daughter who is doing all she can to wreak havoc.
Would love all feedback on this particular issue:
I am sm of twin boys age 7. We have them 50/50 and just got through with a large chunk of time with them (some of which included Halloween). Both boys during their time here were having difficulty sleeping every night, either coming down to our bed, getting in to each other's bed or asking to sleep in the same room as their 4 year old ss. This was a change in behavior for the most part.
This woman is sooooooo stupid!!! She thinks she can get away with lying!!!! Just think of a woman in her late 20's, 2 kids, ex-husband with a fiance (living comfortably), part-time job a bar in the middle of NOWHERE, looser for a boyfriend, had a full hysterectomy at age 26 (not needed) diagnosed bi-polar, sociopath, pathological lier with NO MEDICATION. This woman wonders why her life is a mess!!?? Now she is stalking our house, not letting us talk to the kids, demands for us to take them home when she says............and there isn't a darn thing we can really do about it.
As much as I've told myself that BM will never sign over custody and just leave SD with us, it's really starting to look like that will happen.
I'm so scared. What woman in her right mind would want to have a 15 year old girl dropped off on her, taken out of school mid-year, desserted by her mother, who has been given all kinds of freedom and no limits in the past? Especially when she already has a 15 year old girl living with her?
Something hit me about my SF. His mother was in her forties when she had him & she was diagnosed with manic depression back then. It's now known as bipolar disorder. She had mental problems all her life & was even committed & he didn't have much of a relationship with her. For him, she was just this person he was connected to, but she was distant. Not a mom, just a relative he didn't know that well. Now he's in my family with three generations of women who are very close & he just doesn't get it.
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