no need to get fitted for that jacket today!
my bb is the same way, in the same circumstances, except she is still married to her second child's father and dating dh's ex best friend who is also still married, and he has no teeth. sorry, i know that's not his fault but that's what crazy couples get! i know how frustrated you are, dh gets so angry because it seems like the courts don't do anything to protect his rights. right now he is jumping through the hoops for the judge, by attending these joint counseling sessions. and of course all bb does is lie, lie, LIE. about everything. seriously. today he gets to drive 40 miles away to watch a video about getting along after divorce. it costs $20. okay, first of all, they were NEVER married and we all know this shit isn't going to make a bit of difference. but we are doing it anyway. hopefully once this shit is over, we can see sd again. we haven't seen her since june. and we have joint custody. it makes a lot of sense, huh?
so long story short, i know how you feel. vent all you want. they are stupid, jealous, insecure, ignorant individuals and we need to pray for them. even if it's through gritted teeth!!!

hang in there, girl, she is nothing!!!!!

always forgive your enemies, nothing annoys them so much.

I too have had to put up with a crazy woman with too much power for so many years. How a judge can hand custody of a precious child to a woman he really knows nothing about but assumes she is the better parent because she is the "mother" (and I use the term loosely), is beyond me.

You really have to learn to become unattached to outcomes as a stepmother. We have little control over what happens in most of our situations and must be willing to let go off control at anytime. No one is comfortable with that. Perhaps it is a life lesson we are supposed to learn or something. All I know is I must be buring a ton of karma in this lifetime.

I love your last comment the most! Just hope she keeps making up her own language and you can call it "BM's NAME- eese."

SDs BM in my case makes up a lot. Not words b/c she is a grammar freak (BA in journalism- which actually was unfinished for several years but she lied about already having graduated on a ton of resume/applications.) She likes to exaggerate her life. One time early on in my relationship with DH, SD told my SIL, "My mom wrote a book and had it published."

This is a bit of a lie. She wrote a frequent flyer manual, and co-edited a textbook 10 years ago. I didn't say anything in front of SD, but later my SIL did, "I didn't know your exw was a published author!" DH about did a spit-take.

Then was the best- when BM told SD's shrink that DH was only suing her for custody to get her attention b/c he

Hadn't moved on
Was not happily married to me
and....

he wanted her back.

The shrink shared this with us along with the fact that she believed BM actually really has convinced herself of this.

The shrink, who had been meeting with us as a couple for SD/BM's issues for a full year, also said, "It was very hard for me to keep a straight face. I simply said to BM, 'Ummm...no, I really don't think that's the case. They seem genuinely happy together, and you know? With what I do for a living I'm a pretty good judge of that!"

So when your SD's BM comes up with a BMism...just smile and smirk. It will drive her CRAZY!
Peace, love, and red wine

Peace, love, and red wine

wow!! mabe my DH's ex wife and her are sisters!!