I have a 7 and 11 year old SD. Me and bf have been married 3 years and I still have a hard time with this step parenting thing. A lot of people tell me that I am supposed to love my sd as my own, I do love them so much, but I don't know if I love them as I would love my own. It is so hard for me because I can't talk to my husband about it because i'm afraid it may hurt him. He is so close to his daughters. Is this because I don't have children of my own?? Does having children of your own help you to be a good step parent because you already know what you're doing??