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Has anyone attended a quinceanera (like a sweet 16th but for Mexicans)...it's basically like a wedding...or a wedding where the parents were separated? Maybe each parents has already found a significant other or not. My SD already told me that she's expecting my husband to walk her down the aisle, and that her mom wants to walk on the other side. My husband told me that he won't do it because I'm his family now...and so is SD. But I don't know if he'll actually have the balls to tell SD that and if BM will pressure him into doing it.
I haven't seen it. SD saw it...she said she didn't like it. Normally she'll elaborate on the story and why or why she didn't like a movie..but she couldn't explain why for this movie. She said it was something about a stepmom, a bio mom, a son, then the daughter finds another man to marry who has a daughter from a previous relationship...
Has anyone seen it? Can you explain the family dynamics and possibly why SD didn't like it? I'm assuming a lot of the characters hit home ...or just disturbed her?
A little about me - I've been with my now husband for ten years. For the first seven years, he saw SD minimally (BM was always there to supervise). He got tired of dealing with BM's crap so he gave up trying.
How does one deal with harboring an intense amount of hatred towards an individual; one whose presence is eternal to this lifetime unless a drastic decision is made to rule out the one person you truly love and are in love with to rid your life of the one you despise. One can find comfort in the misfortunes towards this individual, justifying it as karma for all the hell inflicted upon others.
I have three step children, SD 15, SS 16, SS20 and no children of my own.
I am 40 and been wit my husband since I was 25 and while we have argued in the past about the kids and ex-wife, it never has gotten to the point that it is now. - A Wedge between us
I am at my wits end with the lack of appreciation and respect that come from my step kids and for some reason my husband seems to let it be and takes it.
For anyone who has not followed my blog, I met a wonderful man after being divorced 7 years - he has been widowed 5 years. We have lived together 8 months now, and my 3 children do not wamt to be living here.
His older son has moved into a flat with his girlfriend, so we are left in this new house with just his (nearly 17 yr old & my nearly 15 yr old) daughters.
Here we go again with BM changing her mind about SD16. This is the weekend before midterms. SD16 had asked last Thursday if she was going home for a visit to her BM. DH was out of town all week for work and the kid hadn't spoken to me once while he was gone. I told her that she would have to check with her dad as I knew he would be tired from traveling and probably would see no reason for her to go to BM's when she is going there after midterms a few days later. DH agreed and said it was all settled.
I know it's been a long time since I've blogged, but that's because everything has been going so well, thanks in most part to ST! Your own personal blogs have helped me greatly deal with the typical stepfamily issues. I have learned to deal with a lot of sticky situations and put them into context now. However, today I am disappointed, and I feel I should get it out, hopefully get some support, and move on.
DH had a meeting with her at the courts on Monday. He was there for almost 3 hrs. He said she started by asking him for his life story. I am so proud of him. I think back to the first time we were in court about 2yrs ago and how I would get so upset and push him, trying desperatly to get him to see how wrong BM was. It's not that way now. In fact, he wouldn't even need me, except as it should be, for support. He believes wholeheartedly in what we are doing, and wants more than anything to give SD the best life he can.
Every weekend we hear someone telling us they saw her out at the clubs DRUNK....now I know that all of us deserve a break sometimes from being a parent but it seems like getting drunk every weekend as a parent is a little irresponsible to me...I'm a full time parent. My daughter sees her BF once a year and I don't go out and get plastered. I do go out very rarely and have a couple drinks but I make sure I'm still able to take care of my child in case of an emergency.
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