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I'll try to explain as easy as possible, but weird setup. MY FH has a son(5) he has custody of (BM nowhere to be found) and than has a son(2) with BM (Ms. Piggy). BM was in SS5's life from about 2.5-5 yrs old.When FH and BM broke up she continued to watch SS afterschool (charging FH..WTF! That was your SS)..when she found out about me she told FH she can't watch SS anymore because he doesn't listen. It was FINE with me as I didn't want her watching SS. I found another sitter that he is now very happy with.
I have a question. If bm does not want the sk's around the evil stepmom on dh visitation. Where in the hell is dh supposed to take visitation with their kids? I have seen it posted many times and bm complains that dh doesn't spend enough time with the kids and how being around sm is bad. Where are they supposed to spend time with them then? At bm's so she can have her "family" back or so that she can monitor them.
for us...... (Read back into my blogs to get the scoop on our crazy deranged BM).
Ok last two weeks been absolutely crazy...again. Well we are about a month out from the court date.... AND
This weekend while I was at the store I bought frames to put up bd's pic's at work. I do not have any pic's of sd's at my work but quite a few pics of my bd's. My dh made a comment, too bad I didn't have more springs pics from sd's school ( he only buys enough to hang up at home no extras and I buy the whole pack) then we could get frames for them so you could put them up at work. This might sound bad but I don't really want to do this, I don't want to look at their (sd's) pics at work and think of bm, youngest sd looks exactly like bm.
At H's counseling session Friday he started playing the blame game. Everything is my fault, I realize that this is a coping mechanism but it sucks. I told him and his doctor I refuse to take the blame for sd's behavior that's on sd and H. He created this monster now he can deal with it. I think what brought it on was that morning he tells me that I need to start on sd's graduation announcements and planning a party for her. I said clearly and loudly NO. I'd already told him I wanted nothing to do with any of it.
This was mentioned in an earlier post and I thought it deserved its own entry.
My SIL said this to me back in December when I told her I was at my breaking point. The really funny thing was a couple of weeks later, DH took skids to visit her and the skids grandmother for five days. I stayed home due to work (thank heavens for work sometimes), two days in SIL calls me and basically begs me to take them back, said she couldn't tolerate it any longer, that she was not cut out to be a mother, and needed her life back. This was after two days of having my SD stay with her.
can't sleep, so I thought I would be productive rather than to just keep laying in bed.
So you want to know why I don't feel like a part of this family?
SS8 made a little book/story today. he wrote on the back a short little autobiography about himself... He wrote, "He lives with his mother, father and sister". He read this to my DH while I was not around, and DH said, "um, you live with tryingtofindpeace too..." and SS was like, "oh yeah, I forgot", so he draws a little arrow insert and writes "stepmother", above sister.
I am not a part of their family.
Surprise surprise. They have lived with their pyscho BM since December and there have been tons of accusations and lies just flying. The only reason we have had peace and quiet for the most part is that DH is paying CS so she is getting what she wants. You read that right, she does not give a damn about the kids, she wants the money. It's been proven by her brother who visited them a couple months ago and then he told my DH what he saw.
BM thinks everyone should do what she wants with no complaint or input from them. BM told BF at pickup Friday that SS had a lot of homework to do tonight when he got home for visitation, and asked if BF could bring him home half and hour early so he could get started. BF suggested that SS just bring his homework with him so that he could do it here over the weekend. Nope, BM wouldn't let that happen (no explanation as to why, just exercising her "power" over the situation).
I remembered a book series of 29 books the other day that i had when i was a child. It's called "Help me be good" by Joy Berry. They have a book about lying, being rude, being destructive, tattling, being selfish, complaining, teasing, disobeying, etc.
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