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Sometimes I feel like DH likes to dig his heels in and fight for the sake of fighting w/BM. Yes, she's a nutjob, but at times I wish he could just let some of this crap go. He gets into his control freak tendencies and wants to P**s off BM, then she does the same. At times I feel like I am the only adult in this situation. For example, it comes time to sign the skids up for swimming lessons..... DH signs them up for the early morning session...why??? because he knows that BM can't get her butt out of bed before noon on a good day. (skids are w/ us 50/50).
you tell time by EOW, EOWE, EW.
Sorry, I just read a post where someone used that, and it made me LOL.
I implore you to read with an open mind. I probably could have written this letter myself two years ago. Anyway, I found this letter on another site that I belong to and thought that it could be valuable here....if it helps just one person's situation here, then it is worth the wrath that will surely be coming my way.
"Dear Stepmom,
I was wondering how many of you document things about your SK's and BM? I have some specific questions, if you don't mind.
1) Do you document
2) Do you do it or does DH/SO
3)What types of things do you document
4) Have you actually used this documentation for any purpose? Either in Court or given BM/BD the list to prove a point in a personal negotiation.
What has been the result? Was it worth it?
So yesterday I went out with my H and a co worker of his and we hit softballs. Not sure why I hadn't thought of this before, but as soon as I started imagining the softball to be BM's head, my hits were harder, farther, stronger. And with each hit I would yell some cruel name aimed in her honor, such as fat f*ck*n cow, or stupid ugly b*tch. It really helped. 
I'm actually on a softball team through work and now I know what I can use as motivation. I highly recommend it.
I hate that I always seem to add something negative here. Thought I'd change that--at least once. 
My ex husband is an ex for a reason, but is one of the dearest men alive. One of the best men I've ever known.
He is a wonderful dad. He has NEVER put anyone else before our kids (not even himself). And honestly, he would come down hard on our sons if he knew our boys were giving my DH as much shit as DH's daughter gives ME.
BF has his last interview with the CE on Friday. The CE talked to BF's SIL at length last week and sounded very promising according to SIL. Apparently, the CE is getting responses back from the references for both BM and BF and has got the impression that BM is self-centered and needs to be in control. The CE suggested both parents take a co-parenting class and I think this, kind of, says that they may get joint custody. BM has been sugar sweet and super nice through the whole process so I think she is showing the CE that they can co-parent.
Do any of you have issues where the SD does NOT want to see BM at all? Does not want to spend any time with her and cries if she has to? SD has serious issues with BM, does not like her as a person. She is just like her daddy (my H!). So while I can see her point, H and I still have to make her see BM and have a relationship with her. We will not hurt that relationship and will try to just be there for SD as much as we can. BM is already hurting herself a lot . Anyone else going through this??
I hate what my DH is going through. SD has come to live with us, and this has affected H and myself and our careers. So we have decided to go after BM for child support. But he's on the phone with her right now and just by his conversation I can tell that she is fighting him on everything - including SD's health insurance, which is the absolute BEST health insurance we can get. One monthly payment and no co-pays - for doctor visits, or prescriptions or anything!! You can't get better than that! I hate this feeling and I hate that she doesn't want to pay.
would stay in their SKs lives if you and their parent split up? Please also say how long you have been in their lives when you answer
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