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Zippy Free week that was!!!
I decided that since summer was coming and job prospects for the Zipster were dim-that I would take the first week of June off whilst Zippy was in school full days and this past weekend he was at BM's (as most of you know Zippy never leaves the house, more specifically the basement-I think he is part Vampire like his BM!).
What a great rest from the constant video gaming, fake guitar thumping, yelling and screaming downstairs (into his video conference gaming!)it was! I wish I was like DH and this would not bother me in the least- Sigh....
I know you will all be shocked by this news... SD16 canceled again on her bday party at MILs….AGAIN. To recap this is the third bday party canceled the day of the party. Her bday was over a month ago.
So fathers day is coming up the week after next. My BF had made plans to be at his parents the week before fathers day to help them around their property, which is 7 hours away, as they are getting older and can't do as much of the stuff on their own anymore. He decided that since it was so close to fathers day that he would just stay there and spend it with his father, since he hasn't gotten to do this for many years.
Well after a long weekend of traveling to NC for SD's graduation and dance receital it is yet more drama with BM.
First we completely ignored BM this weekend. My DH, I, BD and other family members drove down 4.5 hours and stayed the weekend for the festivites. This weekend was great. We did not have to go through BM for any informaiton. We got all of it from the school and dance company. Purchased our tickets for attendance and just showed up.
I've heard all the hype about the soon to be released movie, and saw the book while out shopping yesterday, so I decided to get it and see what all the fuss is about.
So, I'm in the middle of this book (which I have to admit is pretty good, much better than I thought it would be)and at about 11 last night, it struck me - what if the parents in the story were divorced and remarried or in a committed relationship with another person??? Gave me shivers. :O
Below is link to a dialogue I picked up from Dr. Phil's website between a father (Ken), his daughter (Emily) and the stepmother (Brenda).
http://drphil.com/articles/article/310/
I find this advice very helpful but, in terms of "adjusting our roles" as father and step-mother...DH and I wish there was a practical list of things we could do.
I was wondering if we could compile a practical list of activities that bio parents and stepparents can do to "adjust our roles." I really would appreciate any ideas you have.
Of course he doesn't call it cheating, I do..
FH and I have been arguing non stop over BM. He says I'm obsessed (I admit I'm VERY insecure over the fact that I don't trust her or him for that matter - not to be intimate physically but emotionally). ONE time he confided to her our problems (which were her) that betrayed my trust..and since than it's a constant argument.
Well, this year summer visitation wasn't such a bad thing to plan. Usually it involves a lot of bickering between BM and myself. We have chosen to drive across the states to pick up ss's. This is only possible due to the fact that I filed injured spouse on the taxes this year. But, being nosy little me, I noticed on BM's myspace that she is "enjoying her new bedroom suite", keep in mind this has conveniently happened after she received over $3,000.00 in back child support from our taxes. How about child support not being used for the kids!!!
I've been a way for a while, mostly because we haven't seen SS for over a year because of all the drama that you all can relate to. However, for the last few months BM has been call my husband wanting him to get back involve with SS. Well the reason why is because she can't control SS who is only 6yrs. old. He's been getting in trouble in school and talks back to her. Now I thought that we would get a phone call when he turned around 13, that age when they start smelling themseleves. So now my husband picks him up from school on wednesday and fridays everyweek and keeps him til 7pm.
Got a chance to go and network with old working buddies and also see some really old good friends in the process. Had a few cocktails (I was driven to and from event) at the same time. And now, BM, who showed up 8 hours late yesterday to pick up SD wants to come in when she drops off SD to talk to me about some church / confirmation functions coming up! I've got the coffee brewing and I just ate some potatoes, but BM better watch what she says to me today. Defenses are DOWN!!! I can totally see me saying to SD - go in your room and finish your homework.
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