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If only we could have each other as the bm's to our dh's and as the Stepmother's to our children, what a wonderful world that would be!
My journey with BM started back in 1997. When I first met my DH, he was divorced and semi-raising 2 girls. I really admired this about him, and found it an endearing quality. It really is what attracted me to him in the 1st place. In dating him, I would enquire about the BM…you know how it is, you’re curious. He would always tell me stories of how evil she was, etc. I just assumed that he was a bitter ex-husband seeing as how she left him for an affair. Being a product of a bitter divorce, and subsequent SM myself, I was determined to make it work with BM.
UNFORTUNATELY for just about everyone that knows me!!! Quick update:
To combat my other blog about my woes, here's something that might make you laugh...
BM sent my husband an email yesterday to confirm the pick-up times on Friday & Sunday (this was in response to his email). She agreed to the times, but not the place. (A school that is about half way between her house & ours, where we had done the exchange before.)
The last couple of days have been awful. There is entirely too much going on all at once: my in-laws are visiting, still dealing with BM's nonsense, thinking about court (rumor is the date is Sept. 15th, but we haven't gotten anything from the court yet), issues with work, etc. As some of you know, I'm 4 months pregnant so trying to deal with all of this is extremely stressful. All I want is my afternoon nap, which I haven't been able to take in 4 or 5 days, so I'm falling asleep on the couch at 9:00. This makes me feel bad because I want to be spending this time with my husband.
I hate that I have to be the bad guy every day inforcing chores and responsibilities while BM gets to me "fun mom".
I hate that I don't get to go on as many dates on weekends with my DH because BM is a stupid selfish cow who wants to have her cake and eat it too.
I hate that my DH feels like this pshyco bitch has a right to be a mother just because she poped these kids out of her vagina, even though she walked out on them 6 years ago and comes around demanding mother rights when it's f-ing convenient to her and her social life.
about SO never bringing his kids around because he wants to avoid the hand full of SHYT its going to cause in your household??? Or would you count it as a blessing, enjoy the peace in your home and who gives a hoot if he doesnt spend ample amount of time with his spawn??
and do it all over again...would you? to be involved with a man that was emotionally wrecked from divorce...dealing with bm's...dealing with sk issues, cs,....all the drama and the fights and everything that goes along with it. is your love for your husband so unique and special and you're so certain you could never have that with anyone else....has it made it all worth it. and how many of you went into this relationship having never been married and having no children of your own? i just really want to know how many of you would do it all over again.
I was out last night with some of the girls in my office, most of them are younger than I am... still enjoying their lives of singledom etc... I'm their bosses boss, so often times they don't open up to me, but after a few glasses of vino...they opened up.. and wow! I guess it's generation Y or something, but a lot of them do not want kids.. Hey I get this.. I understand this 100%, but then they say... that their plan is to marry a man with a child already, then they don't have to have one!!!!! I almost fell off my chair... !
Man, yesterday I had the biggest pity party. It kind of all started the day before. The only part that was step related was my general irritability about the way FH coddles SD8. Most everything else was just life in general. Being screwed over by companies I deal with, being taken advantage of by people (mostly at work), BD14 giving me lip, not seeing my BS18 for days, FH giving me the cold shoulder night before last and then leaving his phone in his car last night (so I couldn't vent to him about anything). On top of all this being at a hormonal time of the month...I just lost it.