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So much for my new years resolution not to let psycho-Bit*h upset me, but what she did lastnite was completely uncalled for. It started with SD 7 asking DH if she could stay with us until BM gets a new place. We're like, ok, what's going on? She opens up to tell us that she is stressed out because of her living situation. Background: BM got evicted (again) and ended up moving across town to a friends house, this friend has two kids who are, per SD's, mean and nasty.
Recently, a member's husband expressed some concern about their "commitment" to online networking and support.
My own husband, looks at my addiction (!) to this site, as somewhat funny. BUT he is very adamant about what he thinks is right and wrong with posting here / blogging here / reading here all the time. He does get concerned with some of the things I tell him. He agrees with a lot, but he gets concerned a lot.
I'm no longer playing games with BM. For now on, when I have something to say, I'm saying it. When I have a problem with the things she is teaching her daughters...I am going to tell her. I am going to be the one that is going to have to cover the cost of their braces and probably help out with college. I DO have a say! I don't care who disagrees.
Well before Christmas BM got mad and said she changed SS1 bedtime to 8 instead of the normal 9 which would shorten our time an hour. Convieniently she changed it back after Christmas to 9. However when he is w/ us he is ready for bed at 8, sleeps the entire time hes here and as of recently hes been sticking his toy farmer up his shirt...hmm... I also know that BM has a new bf and SS sleeps in the same bed w/ her so it has me wondering what he is seeing. Also hes been saying 'cock' when he comes over. This just started right after she got the new BF.
So we were leaving for my DH's family Christmas this morning. It had been a great week, no kids, s-kids were at their BM's for the holiday,(DH and I have full custody). The kids were dropped off at the in-laws and waiting for us to come. We actually got along great this week, no big problems, stress level really low...it was wonderful.
Where to start - I have to get this off my chest before I burst and say something totally awful to this kid who I will call "Cain" (kid, who am I kidding.....he's 27) and alienate him (not worried about alienating him from me but rather his father) I hate my youngest stepson - well I don't really hate him, but he makes it more difficult all the time to like him - His father and I met long after his parents had divorced - when we met, Cain was in prison for malicious property damage.
I think the hardest part of being in a relationship with someone who has a child is the feeling of being left out. The last few days I have done a lot of thinking and dealing with emotions I have not had to deal with in the past. The ups and downs, the round and rounds. But I have figured out that if you love the person you are with it is all worth it. The care and devotion you get from being in love is more powerful than anything you will go though. I know that my BF will be there for me even if I go insane, crazy or any variation there of.
I'm lucky I don't deal with this to this extent, but I know many on here do. Unfortunately. And check out the date - 1995. 
http://www.fact.on.ca/Info/pas/turkat95.htm
I have been lucky that anything the BM did was a very very MILD form of this....
My husbands ex has done nothing but try to make our marriage and family fall apart. She has went out of her way to convince my 11 year old step daughter that I am a horrible person and It's a battle to maintain a positive relationship with her because of it. I am trying my best to build a bond with my SD and with every visit with her mother I feel like I have to start all over.
BM won't drive in the snow and is it ever coming down and it's not supposed to stop untill tommorrow night!! WOOHooo I nope they never come home! The last week and 1/2 has been soo nice I don't want it to end!!! I could still use some more advice on disengageing!!
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