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When I got home from work yesterday FDH told me about this. I hope BM was just having a bad day, and that this isn't the beginning of anything...
Okay Ya'll I have read your comments and know what I suggested may seem harsh to have said that she give up her legal rights, but I have seen it time and time again that if a person is only concerned with the money and had already checked out as a parent they will ultimately give up their legal right in exchange for being financially free from their obligation.
I am a very simple person. I like a clean house, I like to take care of the things that I have and I dont ask or do much of anything that is out of my means. I love surprises especially when i do not expect a thing. I do not get many of these because for some reason my husband and step children dont seem to plan things that well.
I came to a realization recently. That when the turning point in this blended family came it was because I finally stopped fighting with DH and the kids. I stepped back and realized (thanks to this board)that it was futile. They were not my kids and no matter what I felt they were not a reflection of me. Only my son was. I think looking back now, DH's moment, was when I pointed out that why were we allowing the kids to talk to me in a manner that he wouldn't allow them to talk to another adult in their lives. I pointed it out a couple of times.
This is me being honest and self-critical. And it's me being emotional and rolling with pregnancy hormones. Maybe I shouldn't even write this so that others can see it and criticize me for it...I just needed to get this out.
I'm struggling with being a step mom. It used to be that the only struggle I had with stepparenting was the fact that we have to deal with BM and her relatives. But now it's starting to trickle into my feelings for the kids and that really scares me.
So, my exh's girlfriend moved in with him. His last one was a nightmare, calling me and asking personal questions about him and why we divorced. He has a baby with her and she's refusing him visitation because she doesn't want "her daughter around a new person", lol. I told DH that I think I'll tell the new girlfriend about this site as she'll need it to deal with that crazy BM.
I thought in the beginning of our new relationship I would be helping my hudbands kids. Before u judge, let me give u a scoop on these evil girls. First SD, her mother passed and Dad(whom is not really her bio dad, but has raised her from 2), with no questions asked, takes "his daughter" so she can be with him. What an ungrateful kid. She was 14, now 16. She "fell in love" with a boy and life as we know it, sucks!! There is so much drama now, I'm ready to take my kids and go as far as I can away from this mess.
Since I have dissengaged, SD9 has nothing bad to report to daddy so she told her mom last week she wants to be at her house more, it is 50/50. DH doesn't know yet, SS 11 told me this morning. There has been no fighting and that is what she thrived on. It was the only kind of relationship DH & SD shared, she complains about his wife and he would get mad and fight with me. She would get happy and start talking when we would fight. This has been happening for the last 5 years. We have separated twice because of it so she knows she had control over our marriage.
For some reason BM decided to make public this blog she wrote about me back before the divorce that she dragged out for ages was final.
Apparently she wants someone special to see it....
And its all made up, except for I did have my first when I was 19 not 15 like she says.
Wonder if its me she wants to see it? or FDH or her friends ???? dunno.
Kinda doesnt even hurt my feelers cuz its not true. But others dont know this....
AND what she says about my daughter! Yikes! is that a threat?
Our kids do go to the same school........
I am still pretty freaked. We live in the same town, and this particular market is right by her apartment. I had to run out during rush hour to get stuff we needed to make dinner, and didn't want to go all the way across town in the traffic. I was there by myself, and she saw me first - I was scanning the signs at the top of the aisles trying to figure out where they keep the QTips (while I was there for the dinner stuff, why not pick up the necessities - y'all know about multitasking being SMoms, I'm sure!).