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The holidays are here - time for the all BMs to show their true colors!

mae fender's picture

I knew it wouldn't last. Our BM has been oddly civil and cooperative since she gave birth to her new baby last month. I chalked it up to exhaustion. She has been more than willing to give us a few extra days here and there (where previously, it was like pulling teeth to get SS3 to even talk on the phone to DH) and that didn't surprise DH and I one bit. Newborns are exhausting. 3YOs are exhausting. I can't imagine anyone with a new baby who wouldn't give their toddler's father the few extra days a month he has been begging for just to get a few moments of peace and quiet to yourself!

Well I kinda lost it yesterday, but I think it ended well!

MARLA_823's picture

Everyday I pick up SD from school. When I have time I let her see her siblings, stepdad, whoever may have come with BM that day. BM calls DH Thurs night to complain that I didn't let her see SD. First, she DID say her hellos and give hugs before I said we needed to go. Second, I'm there to get SD, not make BM feel good, so I don't really care! DH told BM that since she calls SD at night she doesn't need a long visit after school and I don't have time to wait around. She says ok. So yesterday after school, BM gives a quick hug and kiss and we leave.

Time for Group Therapy...

pastepmomof3's picture

Someone had done this a few weeks ago and it worked wonders for me so i thought it was time for another round.

If you could say anything to BM/BD, what would it be?

I'll start.

Why do you think it's appropriate that your stb16 year old spend time with a man you divorced, let alone in another state? Oh yeah, and got her out of school early to do that??

Your stbMIL just died and was buried last week - you don't think we noticed that you were driving her car when you dropped off SD? Gee, that didn't take long.

Come again??

pastepmomof3's picture

Okay, so the SK's are officially here this weekend. I'm cool with it - we've been making small talk over the course of the evening, made some pretty good grub and dessert, etc. My BD2 likes to take car rides to go to sleep, so me and kids went for her nightly ride. We must've driven for an hour but the conversations that came out of it, I'm saying Say WHat? Come again?? I can't believe my ears!

He made changes but I feel numb...

AlexandraL's picture

I'll try to keep this as short as possible. You can read my other blogs for more info. Basically I met a wonderful, sweet, amazing man a little over three years ago. I'd been on my own for quite a while and he was just so good to me, nice, chemistry. I slowly fell in love with him. I thought he was divorced but he didn't explain that he'd actually been separated from BM for almost two years and felt that there wasn't really any difference and was afraid to tell me his divorce was not finalized. Of course, that was three months into the relationship and I was already in love with him.

BM is flipping out and Im loving it!!!!

kayjoy21's picture

Well my DH kids called last night and so of course BM has to talk to him too!!! :? Please, then she tells him that next weekend she is going out of town and she is not going to take the girls. So if we want to call the girls they will be with her mom. Somehow it comes out that she is going to Las Vegas, crazy thing is we will be too! She is going for a wedding, us too! (Not the same weddings) She is mind set that we are going to run into one another and it going to mess up her weekend she was almost in tears last night! I LOVE IT!!!!!

Just wow.

Willow2010's picture

Well SS is grounded (if you can call it that) for about a month. He came in at 2:00AM one night while we were out of town. His grounding is that now he has to be home by 10 if he goes anywhere. STUPID!

He also got ISS this week for three days. (In school suspension). Apparently because he forgot his ID badge. LOL. And DH believes him and has not called the school to verify. And he knows what a big fat liar that SS is.

So frustrating...

Jsmom's picture

Last night SS12 apparently lost an assignment or the teacher did. He needed to re-print it for the teacher. Well guess what it is at BM's house, since it was on her time. After two calls to her house with no answer, DH told him to call his mom at work. He calls Cell - No answer. He tells her to call the store direct to get her. He finally gets her. She tells SS that either DH or I should drive him over to get itand hangs up. Keep in mind they live in the next subdivision. Well I looked at DH and said no we are not, she can have someone email it.

Dreading the Battle

JMC's picture

SD23 is planning a big blowout birthday party for her soon to be 1 yr old daughter with all the bells & whistles, renting a hall, etc., etc. She’s already informed DH of the date (not on the child’s actual birthday) and expects us to be there. To be totally blunt & honest, I don’t want to go for several reasons. The number one reason being is (surprise!) BM will probably be there along with all of her side of the family.

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