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Someone asked me the other day if after 17 years of being a SM, do I ever get jealous of my DH's ex. The answer is yes.
It's not that I'm jealous of what she looks like or her lifestyle (although there have been times when we have gone without while she had everything she wanted thanks to our $$$), it's that I'm jealous of what my DH and she had.
She was is first wife, so she was his first proposal, walk down the aisle, dance as a married couple, honeymoon, etc. She's also his first - and only - in regards to their kids (we don't have children of our own).
Ds came home and told me that one of his friends brought a knife and a throwing star to school. He got suspended for that. Then they brought my son into the office b/c someone told them that ds and his friend that suspended was plotting against the school. Ds told them that they were not and didn't even know he brought the knife and throwing star to school. The principal said he believed him as he has never been in trouble and he has never been known to lie.
I have a problem with my DH's SS14. I have a business where we do remodeling. My DH does the work and on days off from school, SS14 goes with him to help. He doesn't really like it, but we do pay him for his time even though he really doesn't help much. Also, we don't trust him at home by himself (he's stolen money and alcohol, etc.).
On Friday, SS was with DH at a customer's house and this morning I get an email from the customer (WIFE):
PITA 16 brought home his girlfriend to join us for dinner last night! Well, that was the plan anyway...
they ended up eating in town since the local drive-in just reopened from their "closed" season. I cleared Gibby out of the living room, so they could watch TV int he living room. Loghead skulked around, and kept eavesdropping. We were both admittedly amazed to find out he DOES know how to speak in complete sentences!
I spent the day with Princess on campus Saturday. After being snowed in so many days, I couldn't stand the thought of a three day weekend stuck at home. During the snow days, I had discovered that Gibby thought college was like "Hogwarts," and all the classes where in the same building where you eat and live. I figured a visit to see Princess would give us time to BEGIN to patch things up, and let Gibby see where his sis lives.
I had to take the day off of work to watch my SS7 today. His mom is unreliable and was supposed to have him today but due to a fight with my DH yesterday I came to the rescue (as usual). We were at the grocery store today and SS said, "I could call you Mom, even though you're my stepmom, your my mom too." I said, "How would your mom like it if she heard you calling me 'Mom'?" He thought about it and said, "Well you're my mom too." I told him that he was right, that I'm one of his parents, but that his mom is the only one he should call "Mom."
Hello, I am stupid. Meet husband about 3 yrs ago married about 2 yrs now. My son is 24 his 17,16,13,11. BM is a psycho and I have come to the conclusion my husband is a wimp. She allows kids to do anything they want when ever they want. Her idea of parenting is fill the frig with microwave food and ignore everything else. When confronted by casemng about giving ss17 alcohol she just laughed at him CSM. By the way nothing came of it either. My husband will avoid conflict at all cost so he makes excuses. I seem to be the only one that will stand up to ss17&16.
This isn't a big deal, just something I noticed his weekend. So this weekend we went to visit our families. They live in the same town. We also had ss13. Since mil didn't see the kids on Valetines she gave he kids their Vday gifts. She gave our 3 bios a stuffed animal. Sil also got our 3 bios a small gift. Neither got anything for ss. Idk if it is because he is 13 and they see him as 'too old' to get gifts or if hey didn't know ss was coming this weekend or what.
I have posted about this topic before and had many people tell me it's normal...however, if it's normal, then why am I going crazy?!?!?!
Not sure who's still around who knows me by now but thought I'd pop in to say I'm still alive and still sitting in limbo not quite sure how long before I'm officially free of this toxicity formally known as STBX, MOW, SD, Bpd BM etc.
Can't elaborate due to negotiations still transpiring but miss everyone here and wish you all well.
And...
am finally starting to feel so blessed that I no longer need a place to vent about a toxic blended family and all that goes along with that.
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