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November 2009 we added oldest SS to my cell phone plan so he could get an iphone. Deal was he paid $40 to us every month on or before the 15th. His bill actually costs us over $60 but we weren't going to split hairs. We wanted to help him get on his feet and get a phone. Every month he tries to dodge paying the bill yet he goes out drinking all the time and posts on FB, he buys himself expensive clothes and just bought himself a brand new Mustang.
My DH is one of the kindest and generous men that I know. He works hard and makes sacrifices for his family, like driving cars into the ground rather than buying a new one! He keeps a really clean and neat home. He has held jobs since high school.
When we dated, we talked about how we both put ourselves through college even though he did not really have to because his Father is a Physician and his parents had saved for his education. He went out and bought his own cars as a teenager and young adult, etc. When he proposed, he said that he thought we were really similar.
*The following blog entry is based solely on my own research, with help from a qualified professional in the mental health field. I share it here, b/c I see many SM's dealing with behaviors that I recognize within my own situation.
No mentally stable mother will outright choose to damage her child(ren), no matter how hurt or angry she may be. When you witness this type of behavior, there is usually something bigger at play. This is why I went in search of answers.
So we are planning to take the kids camping today. Give them an experience of the real outdoors for just one night to see how they handle it. DH & I (even with my pregnant self) can really rough it, but his kids are softies. They've camped out only in the backyard so far.
Anyway, I'm sitting around waiting on them to arrive. On Thur, DH asked BM to drop them off early on Fri. BM said she'll try, SD gets out of school at such time, traffic is such and such, but hey, she said she'd try. All a big lie.
Yes I am a preacher for real and I am have such a hard time with my teenage step kids I just want to pull out all my hair and screem untill I am horse. I love them like they where my own but if they where mind they sure wouldn't talk to me the way these two do. If they where mind they would be laing on the floor for talking to me that way. My 13 year old step daughter come home with an attude from hell everyday from school and it has gotten to the point where her voice just sets me on edge.
SD9 is here for the weekend and brought her report card which wasn't very good. She is so smart but her grades are slipping...omg this child does not take responsibility for anything...I mean it's the teacher's fault, it's the other kids fault..it's everyone but her...omg...
My DH told her you are going to have such a hard time when you get older it's not even funny...ok..must go...
just venting...geezzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz....
well its my ss 13th birthday ,so his moms all about celebrating ,even though she just went to a teachers meeting yesterday and they told her he doesnt turn in his work and is pretty much failing,and when the teacher ask him a question in class he just stares off and says "what", and says he cant find his pencil.They ask her if he was on medicine because they think he is over medicated,she replies no,hes not on meds,,,so what the F#$%^ is their too celebrate,his delinquent behavior,my Lord i just cant do it ,he is so lazy we gave him simple house chores and he cant even do that,he cant clean
We got it. We got it. We got ALL of it. Our income tax refund was deposited in the account today! I blogged earlier about how BM claimed the skids although DH is CP and they do in fact live with us two-thirds of the time. I knew she had done it when the reason for the e-file rejection came up "SSN of Qualifying Child cannot be used on more than one return" or some such.
Just under a month ago, I rubbed my hands together and giggled with Rags-like glee after depositing our paper return in the mail slot and thought, "Alright Bimboron, it's ON!"
You don't have to like us. You can hate us. You and DH obviously hate each other.
We don't like you, either. But we don't bash you or your partner to the kids. Why? Because a) as much as DH hates you he loves the kids so much more and b) both he and I are mature adults who have found ways to blow off our steam about you without the kids knowing.
If you could keep your hatred of us confined to ivillage, your support system of people and a therapist, your kids would be much better off.
How the hell do I make this man see the truth? I am losing my damned mind! I tried to tell him about this site and how I dont feel so alone now with my feelings. I tried to read him a few things to try to give him some insight. NO WAY! He immediately put up his guard, got defensive and said "BOO HOO...you all are just a bunch of cold, bitter wenches that have nothing better to do bitch and complain!"
What the hell do I do to make him see how I feel???
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