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I can't stand the fact that ex kept my husband's last name. Is anyone here irritated by that too? Is it mainly for the sake of the child that she had to keep the last name the same as the child? Ex left my husband, I was thinking if I ever left a man, I would change my last name back to what it was before I got married in a heart beat even though I had a child that carried his last name. Or better yet change the child's name and hyphenate w/my name & exhusband's name.
Grrr this frustrates me to no end! Am I crazy or when two people get divorced aren't they supposed to stop referring to each other as husband and wife? Every time biomom refers to my bf, she calls him her husband, hubby, etc. She refers to herself as his wife. You are divorced! He's not your husband anymore! What is WITH this woman? It's sick to still refer to him as your husband when you've been divorced for a long time now. If he had died I could understand...but he didn't die, he LEFT YOU! You're not his wife anymore!
He can't understand why I can't be part of this "functioning dysfunctional family" as his ex so smugly put it the last time I stepped foot into her house. We've been together 5 years and married for 2 and things haven't changed. He can't understand why can't I embrace his ex and doesn't stick up for me at all. The times I've been around her, she made snide remarks, took him aside to have a private conversation, they reminisced about the past in front of me. He wants to blame my sensitivity on my depression. My depression has gotten worse I feel because of this unhealthy family dynamic.
Someone said in another post that if the marriage ended tomorrow, skids would be gone without so much as a thank you. I am grateful that I really don't think that is true for me, my skids were 3 and 5 when I met them and are 6 and 8 now, and are really, really loving kids. I think if I were to disappear they would miss me and talk about me and want to see me, and would always remember me fondly if they couldn't. Sure, they don't have the same depth of feeling for me as their BM, but they do love me and I am family. Am I particuarly lucky?
Hey guys, I've been struggling w/this feeling of not being able to or how to accept the fact that ex wife will always be in my family's life. I cry at night thinking that it's me that has a problem w/this. I try to put my feelings all together and I feel like I can't accept the fact that we'll be dealing or see my husband deal w/this woman for a long time. I just don't want him talking to her but that's not possible because they have a child together. I feel jealous too. Please help, I don't know what else to do from here on.
I think that would be a good poll question…how many people in the forum believe that the biomom has more “right” to the child then the biofather (given a situation where there are no instances of abuse or neglect from either side)…it seems that that is what the court believes and I am curious how many of us agree with them…
I’m so angry right now! I get home from work and start cleaning the house. My BF and his daughter arrive. My BF goes outside to mow the lawn. I ask his daughter “Hey would you mind doing the dishes for me, I could really use the help.” She says “Sure.” I had two cups and four glasses sitting in the sink that needed to be washed. It took her about five minutes to get them done and then she went outside.
Recently my sd told me that she wanted to join a soccer team, Her wonderful mother told her that she couldn't because they live in the city and it is mostly african american kids on the team and she does not want her to play with "BLACKS" What the hell is wrong with this woman???
X's are a pain in the A$$! I get 2 hours notice that x has decided to move his Wed visit to Tues!!
Son has a wad of birthday money....he just got..good tmime Dad always seems to seize the opportunity to take him out shopping to blow all of it on video games. Which I end up stuck policing on a daily basis...
(Daddy's seen as the good guy who buys them..and I'm seen as the bad guy who takes them away or limits them!!)
My son's in band this year...last year X rented the instrument, etc for our daughter..so he is doing the same for son.
So it's been a while since I've had anything to blog about. Naturally that stems from the simple fact that I hadn't seen my fiancé's son in over a week. Last weekend we were out of town. I've been thinking a lot about the potential issues he may have dealing with loss and having a mother figure on the home. I'm trying really hard to be sensitive to his needs while at the same time remaining focused on my needs within this relationship. Long story short I feel like I was on constant alert this weekend. He goes through great lengths to be by me and it drives me crazy.
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