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smcpaw's picture

Well, I finally slept last all night for the first time in a long time. My BF's daughter left last night to go on vacation with her mother (she left her mom's house 3 weeks ago and cause all kinds of problems at our house, and now she is rewarded by going on vacation before she starts summer school). I did take it upon myself to call her mom and tell her everything that has transpired since she snuck out of the house. I just felt that her mother should know that she has shown no remorse whatsoever, has not had proper punishment for the crime and has caused extreme turmoil at both homes. Believe it or not the biomom agreed with a lot of what I said and we decided that when they come home from vacation, her and my boyfriend were going to come up with a proper punishment and from here on out the daughter will have to come to our house, like it or not, on the scheduled weekends. She used to be able to decide and stay away for months if she so chose to. I think it is about time that the parents are the bosses and finally take control. As for my relationship with my boyfriend, I think we'll be fine. I told him last night that even his ex thanked me for trying so hard to do what is right for his daughter. Some wouldn't waste the time...

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Sweetie's picture

Hi smcpaw,
I really hope that the biomom was sincerely telling you her genuine feelings on the subject, but the only way that you are going to know is when they come back from vacation. I don't mean to seem to be so skeptical, it's just that I just have been screwed over by my husband's ex with my SD's behavior with her writing all the defammatory remarks on the blogsites. I just spent an afternoon at the attorney's yesterday because biomom was just paying us lip service. I hope you have better luck.
Regards,
Sweetie

smcpaw's picture

I have my doubts when it comes to the biomom. She claims to be so tough yet the daughter controls both her and my boyfriend. I do not consider her a friend but I believe that if she at least knows that her daughter can't get away with the bull*!?% with me around. I by no means want to have a relationship with the biomom, but the daughter needs to understand that we all know what is going on and we are all working to get her under some sort of structured control. Thanks for your words.

happy mom's picture

Glad to hear that ex will try and change things. Sometimes its best to put all differences aside and really pay attention to the children and their behavior. Sometimes we forget that the children are affected by all our differences and fighting between households. Let us know if ex made the change and if it worked.