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Weekend Alone

smcpaw's picture

Thanks everyone for their comments on being able to request one weekend a month where my daughter stays with her dad, grandmother, friend or godparents. My daughter spent the weekend at her grandmothers (Friday night from 8:00 p.m. until Sunday morning at 8:30 a.m.). She seemed to take it better this month than last month. I just want a break once a month. She seems to understand this a little better this month. Thanks to all for their advice, but I would never let my daughter stay at the house alone. Today, with the internet, parties happen in a matter of minutes with all the instant messaging, etc. Can't afford to risk it all by allowing her to be home alone - too much temptation is a bad thing. Thanks again.

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Little Jo's picture

Very glad to hear. I thinks it's really healthy. So did you do anything special?

smcpaw's picture

Is special enough for us. We enjoy our alone time without interruption of every day routine. We don't need to go out on the town to have a good time, just being together is special for us (I know, you all want to throw up now). I have waited for true love all my life and now I finally have it. Unfortunately, I stayed married for 20 years and wasted my happiness. The only good that came out of it, was that I have two beautiful children (one is 22 and the other 17) and I am a much stronger person having lived through the hell of the divorce proceedings, but not without the help of the love of my life (met him when I was moving into my new apartment - but didn't start a relationship until 3 months later). Now we bought a house together with live in heavenly bliss. Thanks again.

Little Jo's picture

Maybe plan a romantic dinner at home for next time. Surprise him.

smcpaw's picture

Hi Little Jo - We do have romantic dinners once a week on Saturday nights. I work all week long and dinners during the week are whatever I can whip up in a hurry.

Cruella's picture

I have constantly begged my husband for a weekend away or even one night out without the kids. He only does it when I am sick of things and really threaten to leave him. He tells me he can't find a babysitter. Of course he can't the kids won't behave for a babysitter. They are not bad kids but they are not trusted alone even though they are old enough to be able to leave for a couple of hours. His family lives in town but they are not in the kids lives. The last time we went out alone it was in January on a Monday night and I was too sick and tired from work to enjoy it. He does a lot of talk and promises but nothing comes of it. When I was single and lived alone I made less money but found it nice to be able just to jump in the car and go places. Visit a friend, the beach, or even just go to the bookstore and read. I had time to think and reflect. Those days are LONG gone. I moved to where my husband lives and I don't know one person to do anything with. My job turns my brain to soup because of all the stress that I am wiped out when I get home from work and come home to a mad house!!!
I do nothing but sit at home all the time resenting the hell out of the situation. I stopped trying to talk to my husband about it because all I get is blah blah blah yada yada and still nothing. It is all about him and the kids. I am not here at all.

Cruella's picture

Since all of his paychecks go toward daycare etc if we do every go out it is all on me to pay. He wanted to go out for a weekend in April however I just can't afford it. He has an upcoming court hearing and he has to pay a lawyer. I guess I am just at the point that I want some attention sometimes. Just venting...