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So BM has decided No to DH's proposed summer activity, although he has requested to talk to her about it one more time. He had to specifically request to talk about it away from the kids; she just went ahead and started telling him no during the last pick-up with the kids right here and he had to say politely "can we please talk about this later." What was she thinking? Grrrr.
So, I have carried myself, my girls and my husband on my health insurance for the past 2 1/2 years. BM has state paid insurance for SS and pays $8 a month for a crappy HMO- My company has recently been bought out and we have to update our insurance information and enroll with the new company. DH and I had a conversation last night that we would add SS and use the this insurance as secondary converage- not extra cost... no difference if we add 2 kids or 3 to my policy- no cost to BM. Sounds reasonable and responsible, right?
The SD's boyfriend (AKA "the sponge") showed up at our house yesterday..., SD left for night school and he left with her so I thought ok, he was here, but is gone again..., no problem with that. As I was getting ready for bed SD pops her head in our bedroom door and says "just wanted to let you know I was home from school", my wife said to her ok, who is with you?, and she said the sponge was. I said wait a minute, we discussed this, he doesn't stay over here, you don't stay over there, you are in the door every night by curfew.
First off, I want to thank EVERYONE that weighed in on this one. I realize that is it a very touchy subject. I appreciate the honesty you all set forth.
2nd. I am amazed at the manipulation we all face. Whether it is the BM, the skids or the bio's. I hate feeling 'played'. To me that one of the worst feelings. Exspecially from someone you love and I love my Daughter.
I am going through an extremely hard time with my Ex and my current wife. My Ex is a freakin psyhco. She has the luxury of a free attorney, and all she wants to do is keep taking me back to court to try and break me and my new wife. New wife is an awesome step mother to my three children. She unfortunately is unable to have children. She is a rock to my children. Always listening and there for them when their BM is not. My three are Female 12, Female 10, and Male 8. I am going back to court again March 30 because now she wants child support again.
I met my other half about four years ago.. we were madly in love.. We both had kids, his lived out of state and mine well.. I have raised alone most of their lives. So blending two families was something I was really excited about. Having help around the house with the kids was fantastic. Mom can only be so many people rolled up into one and being a parent to four boys and one girl.. Well guys need guys to talk to about some things. I got to meet my other halfs kids, they came to my home during a bad time..
I can't begin to tell you how many times I have called BM's moves before she even makes them. And then DH looks at me like I am some sort of witch because I can "tell the future". Why is it that we KNOW what they are up to long before the big reveal?
Here's the most recent example-
I may look nosey, but I respect her privacy for the most part. I was just putting some laundry away and her dairy was laying open on her bed. It expressed her 'love' of getting high with her one friends and also with my neice. Being a single Mother for so long I have talked with her about drugs, sex and drinking and told her of my experiences. I can not throw stones.
I have been telling SS and my wife to call the tech school rep to explain the situation, maybe they can help somehow. They finally did and guess what, the rep said that if he sends a letter explaining why he cannot get a cosigner for his loan the school will underwrite the loan and consider it a hardship issue. This means that there is still a chance that he could go to school !!!!
I'm not sure what is involved or how it works but that is what my wife was told on the phone. I don't really care, as long as it gets this kid on the road to his own life it works for me.
I got some counseling of my own on this whole situation with SD and her not wanting to be at our house anymore.
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