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What is BM up to now???

squeegie_beckenheimer's picture

My husband just got an email from BM, saying that she wanted to talk to him after SD8 had gone to bed. She suggested Thursday at 8:30, which technically, SD8 would not be sleeping by then, but whatever. My husband emailed her back & said no phone calls, if she had something to say, she could write a letter (or email). Yay! Because this is what I was thinking, too. A phone call from BM that late would mean neither of us would be sleeping until after midnight, because we'd be discussing whatever she called about. We've had enough of those nights!!!

DH stands up to BM

bookgirl's picture

In his defence, DH has done better than ever lately. He used to chat with her about things that had nothing to do with the kids & if she wasn't a psycho who twisted everything around & lied about is constantly this wouldn't be a big deal. So my policy is the less she knows the harder she has to work to twist her sick lies about us. DH didn't get this for a long time. Well, he came down with a horrible virus which destroyed our fishing plans (sad) & the dr told him it was very contagious. So we cancelled the SK visit. Kind of sucks that he's so sick I can't bask in this much.

Please Read- held it in for years...Hard things to admit; when you feel your sk is more popular than your bk

warriorprincess's picture

I can't believe how painful this still is after 14 years. I would have expected to have 'gotten over it' by now, but it just gets harder. I have basically raised my ss since he was five. His bm has been loosely in the picture, just enough to screw it all up. I never had a choice as to whether or not I wanted ss full time, I was just told he was coming to live with us, and here it is almost 10 years later. People used to tell me all the time how cute my ss was, at the same time ignoring my bs who was right there (he's two years younger).

Needed input...

TheCharm's picture

I posted a blog yesterday about a big problem that erupted with BM. I REALLY needed some advice but only Anita said anything.
So I will be contacting an attorney to find out what I need/want to do with BM. Last bight at bedtime DH admitted something more she said was she thinks I mistreat her son because he has said so more than once and she has seen on TV how women kill children. WTF?!
DH won't tell me more. He says he "doesn't remember". I think he's afraid that I will divorce him to get away from crazy.

Outline for Counseling...In your face BM

StepG's picture

Yesterday I posted on how H gets aggravated in the counseling sessions with BM cause she is acting Ms. Perfect and running her mouth and he just says nothing rather than blowing his top. So we did an outline of Goals, Issues, Questions, and the Parental Alienation signs that SS has. H took it to counseling last night.

Here are the highlights in no particular order:

BM: SS is afraid of his dad
Counselor: no, I have talk to SS and he is not afraid of his dad, he loves his, he loves his dad

Sad how much a BM wants to get rid of her kids!

kiwi's picture

The BM is really eager to ditch the SDs onto us. Originally wanted to do it with no legal paperwork (currently she has full custody and we have them stay EOW and she wants that reversed). She reckoned that it has all changed from when she did a custody thing in 2005 and now no paperwork needed doing. I spent the afternoon ringing the relevant organisations and found out what needed to happen ie lawyer filing a variation of parenting order and wrote down what she needed to do.

I need advice on something I thought we settled before....

Sassy's picture

If you read before I have SS11 SS16 and SS18. They are all wonderful stepsons and I adore them. The problem is, of course, their bm. The two older boy have continuously told me they do not want to go to her house where hubby live in another county. they don't mind being here in our town where she keeps a house to visit them on weekends at her convenience, but they hate her new beau. So, man times I have told her (usually via text) that the two oldest didn't want to go when the summer came and she wanted them for a week or whatever. Well this time, Mr.

Hanging in There

mallmama's picture

I used to get along with my SS & SD. Now that they're teens and especially since we got married, they have changed. Suddendly I'm the source of all their hatred. SS isn't sneaky enough to set me up. But SD is, so I'm constantly playing that game right back at her. Her mother is chronically ill and is getting worse. I don't think I can live with her all the time. She just visits for now. DH can't stand the SD for very long either, she reminds him of his ExW and it makes him angry. I have 3 grown of my own and didn't have these issues.

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