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Does anyone out there have a kid/skid with Reactive Attachment Disorder?
After some MAJOR computer investigations in the last two days, I am beginning to think that may be the issue with SS15. DH and BM seperated when he was just over a year old, and SS has a brother that is only 13 months younger than he is, so he kinda got left out... I became "mom" when SS was 3. He never wanted to visit BM when he was little, and refuses to go now. And he loves to take his anger out at me, as the female figure in the house.
Any advice or suggestions with how to deal with him?
DH called this morning to tell me that he loves me & just wants me to be happy & that no matter what, he is going to be here for baby Shiloh. Also says he doesn't want a divorce. neither do I. But right now, i can't live with his daughter. SD doesn't care about being a family or the fact that a baby is on the way. SD is selfish & the only thing that matters to her is her boyfriend, nothing else, not school, not her future, just the boyfriend.
my husband and I are fighting about pictures that are up in our house. there are several of the two of us from our beautiful wedding and lots of our baby who is one. she gets her pics taken every 3 months and is just to cute to only get a few so they are up a lot around the house. his kids are 8 and 10 and don't get their f'in pic taken every 3 months so aren't the same for them but there are pics up of them. I don't c a problem with it bc she is a baby and when his kids were little I'm sure it was the same at him and his xwifes home.
At the beginning of summer DH & I decided to try & get all of the kids signed up for some kind of activity. We put BS in swimming lessons which he loved & SD in some kind of cheerleader workshop because she begged us to, which left us trying to find something for SS4. Well I checked my work email yesterday & there was a notice about youth soccer. So I called DH & told him I'd sign him up but only after BM had been informed & had agreed to take him. So DH texted her & even called her to no avail. Then it dawned on me.
As of 10:05 am yesterday I am officially a divorcee. I am tremendously happy that it is over. As I am no longer a stepparent and won't have much to contribute on that front, I may just visit here to warn unsuspecting victims if their situations seem similar to what mine was.
To all of you ladies who choose to remain in the life, I greatly admire your strength and determination, as stated before, this is not a life for me.
I don't have the devotion or patience of a martyr.
Well, it's done, i don't know how i feel right now. I feel like i have peace, but at the same time, it cost me the father of my unborn child.I love DH, do I love DH? I don't know, all i know is that dealing w/his daughter was too much for me to bear. I have my own responsibilities right now.I have a 21 yr old I need to put through college, I have an 11 yr old, honor roll student that I need to make sure stays that way & I have a new infant on the way, due to arrive at the end of September.
I have been wavering between leaving fh and staying over the last couple months. FH has been working hard to make things right between us. He sincerely seems to have changed or 'understand' how his behavior has affected me and has helped make our life very unhappy at times. He really has been different with me--not in a fakey 'I'm trying to sucker you into staying' way--but more of like he truly has been changing and changing for the better.
My SD-13 is visiting for the first time since last summer (because she moved out of state). Thank God she is only here a week. Apparently the only reason she came to visit is because she is snooping around and reporting back to the BM. My husband just had surgery and she said she was coming to see how he was doing...I didn't believe it for a second.
Why would she do something like this?
Why does she hate this family so much?
What else can I do to show her that we do care for her?
i'm not even going to start from the beginning. i have no time, nor energy. needless to say today is another day of the blahs. every since DH won full legal and physical custody of the kids, the stress of fighting that horrid BM has subsided a bit and i have had more time to dwell on the reality of our new lives.
SS15 spent the day with his dad's sister, since DH had him leave Sunday night. DH called around 5 to say he was going to be late tonight, since he needed to go see SS. Imagine my surprise when DH and SS came home around 8:30. I wasn't expecting to see SS for several more days, since he leaves for BMs tomorrow.
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