Deleted call history...what do you think?
I have been wavering between leaving fh and staying over the last couple months. FH has been working hard to make things right between us. He sincerely seems to have changed or 'understand' how his behavior has affected me and has helped make our life very unhappy at times. He really has been different with me--not in a fakey 'I'm trying to sucker you into staying' way--but more of like he truly has been changing and changing for the better.
However, here's the but... I have been deciding for myself if it's worth staying or leaving, yadda yadda yadda. Same old thing--do I stay or do I leave? I've been heavily leaning toward leaving and have been making plans to do so. I'm not sure what I'm waiting for--maybe I'm trying to see if his changes are for real, and if he is really the kind of person he seems to be--of if he's just pretending to be a decent humanbeing.
Anyways, I looked through his phone this morning(yeah yeah I know...) and i discovered that he has no call histories--he's deleted them all. No incoming or outgoing. Now, funny thing is he called me last night and talked for 34 minutes according to my caller id--but he has no history of the call--except I checked another part of the call timer thing and it showed that he had a 34 minute call. I don't think he knew enough to erase this part of the call history thingy...and I know this was his call to me. However, there are like no incoming or outgoing call histories--and no texts in his box except one I sent him last night. Now he does get a fair number a day from the skids and me but none were there.
I realize people erase text messages cuz there's so many of them...but to delete his call history?! That is more than suspicious. I'm absolutely certain it's happened before since I'm a 'phone checker' and have done so for a long time. I don't want to get into the rightness or wrongness of phone checking--I don't do it because I think he's having an affair--it started as me just being curious as to what goes on in his life because he's a large-sized clam when it comes to communication. After I started checking, and he knew about it, that's when stuff got deleted. That really upsets me because I'm an open book about my phone...he can use it/check it whenever he wants, but he chooses not to "because he trusts me"--I don't look at him going through my phone as a trust issue, but more of him being curious about who I am and what goes on in my life...and it seems he doesn't really care apparently or maybe I'm just messed in the head.
Anyways, I am very very angry over him deleting his call logs. Like I say, it has nothing to do with cheating and all to do with honesty and trust. I couldn't trust him to not empty our joint bank account of $200 dollars--he never told me, and our account wound up closed. That's just case in point of the lack of openness and trust here. I know he used the money on our vaca, but it doesn't mean there was a blow to our trust/openness when he took the money w/o telling me....just as this is a blow too because he doesn't share his life w/me.
Sorry to be so long here.... But what do you all think of him deleting his call histories? I think it seems very suspect and I am quite certain this is going to be the straw that broke the camel's back and I'll be signing a lease elsewhere very shortly.
What do y'all think about this phone thing???