Poll question for everyone: Is BM family acceptable in YOUR home???
Here's a quick question for y'all.
I live in the house fh shared with bm...she's still on the mortgage but he has title(don't even get me started lol).
Anyways, they lived there for 13 years.
I gave up my condo to live with him and we got engaged.
The Bm hates me, has sent threatening emails, etc...has made my life miserable--I won't even go to functions where she is at because she makes me physically sick.
So knowing this, fh golfed at a charity event for his ex bro in law, which really made me mad.
Now he wants to let skids have their cousins (bm's nephews) over while I'm at work. And to make it worse, when their dad (bm's bro) comes to pick up his kid, fh wants to know if it's ok to have him in.
Ladies and gentlemen, I am seriously pissed off and like she-hulk enraged by this. I think my fh is forcing me to accept things that my gut tells me are NOT ACCEPTABLE because he is really ramming this stuff down my throat.
This hasn't happened yet--having these people around--but it is in the works and is coming so fh wants to know what to do. I told him oh hell no and flipped a bitch...but him and his wonder-shrink said I'm bad, nuts, bitchy, etc and just plain WRONG.
I don't care what anyone says, MY heart, my SOUL and my gut are telling me it's WRONG. I hurt inside and am physically sick trying to figure out what the right thing to do is.
My head logically says it's just people, but my HEART and GUT are saying it is disrespectful to me and our home to allow bm family there.
There is no reson why the skids can't see their cousins at their mom's house...this is just crossing the line...and in our life there are no boundaries and that is really getting to me.
I am ready to throw in the towel and walk away--absolutely, positively this time...I'm tired of feeling sick at the thought of coming home from work(to pay for this home that isn't MINE) and finding BM-family (or maybe even her) in my home.
What do you all think? Am I nuts for putting my foot down on having bm-family in my house???
Honest opinions are very much appreciated--you can tell me if I'm crazy.lol