A funeral and a BM with no boundaries.
My DSOs brother, Bro3, passed away unexpectedly last week. DSO and his Bro3 are tight, they were the 2 youngest of 5 kids. DSO relied on Bro3 a lot for guidance, fixing stuff, borrowing stuff and Bro3 helped pay the atty retainer for DSOs divorce when BM moved in internet lover man.
DSO was eating Xanax and in no shape to drive 7 hours round trip to get YSS from the group home. YSS was given a pass to attend the funeral. BM spent all of Wed nite and Thurs morning 'updating' DSO on YSS release, DSO was getting updates directly from the social worker so he ignored BM repeatedly. Bitch started texting me bc DSO wouldn't answer...I have BMs number marked as Spam and it goes to a Spam box, so I didn't see the texts until Saturday lol. DSO wasn't talking to anyone, he couldn't form a sentence. DSO is better than me at going radio silent on BM when she tries to engage.
BM goes and gets YSS and misses most of the viewing Thurs, thank God. They get there around 5 and BM parks her fat ass there for the next 3 hours. She actually got to the funeral home before anyone else on Friday. We arrived and there she is and she stayed the whole time (she did bring the SS', but she didn't have to stay). I was prepared she would pay her respects, but I didn't realize she would feel she was still family and park her ass there.
At one point Friday, DSO, a cousin and I are chatting at the funeral home, BM comes up and tries to talk to DSO about when to bring YSS back to her bc they have another funeral blah blah. DSO just stares straight ahead and ignores her until she leaves, she tried to talk to him at another point and he did the same. At the end of the service, when people were coming up to pay their last respects, BM just stared at DSO. I was STARING right back at her, and I'm sure I looked pissed.
I asked DSO after it was over if she tried to come up and hug on him, I would have to bleach him down. He was like...no fucking way I'd hug her.
I wanted to text BM that Bro3 hated her guts. Bro3 actually told DSO to shoot her ass, plead temp insanity and take the jail time when she kicked DSO out for her internet lover. If Bro3 knew she had been at his funeral for all those hours...and took a flower out of the spray, he would have cussed her out or shot her himself.
She just thinks she is still part of the family and its her right to be there I guess.