Do you see the light yet DSO??? Sorry long.
I haven't blogged in a really long time. I really don't need advice but need to tell someone of my glee on DSO finally seeing the light with YSS, well I'm hoping finally he does.
YSS has always been a hand-full. He and BM are just alike, being the arm chair psyche that I am, I think its severe Borderline Personality. They both fly off the handle for some small perceived thing and become aggressive and violent. I kicked YSS out years ago and he can't stay more than a few days at my house.
SS turned 20 Dec 12th, a Thursday. The events leading up to his Bday were chock full of excitement. SS and BM got into a fight, BM kicked him out (this happens frequently) and SS kicked in the door of BMs free housing. BM called the cops and SS hid for a few days. He was in constant contact with DSO though and DSO brought him to our house on Tuesday bc the bitty baby boy had nowhere to go (in other words, he was out of money, cigarettes,.and drugs). On Wednesday DSO and SS go to police and find out SS needs 338.00 to stay out of jail, and that would be his fine in court the next week.
Its 2 weeks to Christmas and DSO does not have 338.00 to give the asshole. DSO has to ask his brother for the money (this was a huge hit to DSOs ego having to do this but its his wittle baby boy), and he took SS with him so SS could Thank HIm in Person. Brother told SS that it was a loan and SS swore he was getting a job to pay him back. Thinking SS would be with us for a few days (a week was my limits I placed), I pick up a bday cake, and DSO could go get them dinner. Funny thing happened, SS went back to BMs but came to the house long enough to get his cake, his 40.00 bday money and then go bck to BMs. I knew this would happen but DSO has a huge blind spot for this kid so I keep my mouth shut. Supposedly HUD (free housing authority) kicked SS out of BMs apartment but he is still living with her. I also told DSO thats the last time I'm buying a cake for BM to eat. I don't buy one for the other 2 skids.
Christmas week: SS says he is starting a job on Jan 6th at one of those call centers. Yeah SS, once a customer is rude to you, you will flip shit and cuss them out, so I don't belive him. at. atl. Even though SS didn't want anything for Christmas except to stay out of jail, he comes with his siblings on Xmas Eve, gets his cash and thats the last DSO hears from him for days. Didn't even say, will you give 20 bucks to Brother or take me to Brothers to at least offer him money.
Sad part was Christamas Day. My 2 kids, my DIL, my grandson all text me Merry Christmas. SD texts both of us after she gets off of work (worked 4am to noon). Neither one of DSO's boys even text him (OSS is 26 and lives with his 47yo Suga Mama).
Jan 6th is today and Jackoff starts his job. At 945 last night, YSS texts and asks for money. DSO ignored as we were in bed bc we get up at 515am to get ready for work.
DSO texts me at 1130am today and says he probably didn't go to work as SS and BM are ignoring his texts. SD said she doesn't think he went bc he was up very late last nite trying to bum money from her.
Once again, I tell DSO that he needs to stop enabling the asshole man/child. I said that if SS wants money, he comes to our house and works for it. There are some heaving lifting things that he could do that is hard on just DSO and I to do (DSO was giving this kid 20.00 a week and if SS showed up at DSOs work, he would give him cigarettes or a few bucks). DSO responds he has no more money to give anyone.
Anyone wanna place their bet on how long before:
a. SS asks for money for some sorry reason and DSO bends over.
b. SS will create this huge story that its DSOs fault bc the asshole didn't have money to get to work (he lives half mile away) or BM didn't wake him up/or take him to work.