I reached my limit and drew my boundary....
SS20 is currently sitting in a regional jail with 6000 bond. I thought DSO had a break through yesterday afternoon but it was short lived.
After he kicked in a door in Dec, I blogged about it, he lived with family friends. He started 2 jobs and got fired from both for not showing up. 2 jobs in 3 weeks. The people he was staying with have a 16yo DD. Rumors started floating around about him and a 16yo so he moved in with Grandpa the weekend of Feb 23rd. SS and BM and Grandpa have had big fights in the past and Gpa and BM both aren't afraid to call the cops. A fight started on Feb 28, cops were called, SS took off, he was arrested for 3 domestic charges and a restraining order from Gpa and BM.
So he was to go to court this morning. I agreed he could come last nite and shower and then DSO could take him to court.
He starts messaging DSO yesterday afternoon and unleashes on DSO. Here is the gist of it:
Where were you all my life, living with....long pause but I can fill in the blank, SS said living with that Whore Girlfriend, you stayed out all night drinking and then beat women and kids. You are a drunk, my sister is a whore (SD is a good kid and not a whore), my brother is a loser. You have never been there for me your whole life and your brother had to bail me out of jail (the Dec incident) and you have never taken care of me. Tell your brother that I ain't paying back his money anyway, you can pay it since you have never done anything for me my whole life. SS is like BM, they know what to say to him to make the guilt amp up 1000%
DSO replied, Go fuck yourself, I'm done with you.
I then tell him flat out. I'm scared of hm and that he may go off on me. I do not want him staying here anymore. I've been dealing with this same shit for 15 years and I'm done with drama.
DSO was shaking when I got home from work. He was over and done with it for that moment.
About 530 the Asshole starts calling and wanting DSO to come get his phone and knife bc he was turning himself in.
Yep, DSO ran to him and is in a puddle of tears bc his baby boy is in jail.
Sidenote: 11 years ago, my DD was 19 and had just finished her first year at WVU. She went out, got a DUI and ended up at the same jail. She let a friend know to come and get her and I didn't know a thing until the next day. She did NOT bawl and cry like a baby and I didn't either.
At 10 I'm trying to sleep and his phone rings. SS is trying to call him from jail but there is no account set up so DSO can't take the call. After 4 calls, I go sleep in the guest room. Money is added and he can talk to his baby boy.
Of course this morning he takes the day off work to go to court, but they wouldn't let him in since the Asshole is an adult.
I texted him that he needs to spend his day reaching out and withdrawing money from his retirement. They could release SS today and the kid has nowhere to go. DSO can get this money, bond him out, and get a cheap place for them to live. He snapped back at me that he'll get the money if needed and he'll talk to his brother. The same brother that bailed the kid out 3 months ago and the kid won't get a job to pay it back.
For a fleeting moment I thought DSO was going to grow some balls and take a stand. I do see DSO getting the money to bail him out. I see him getting money and him and baby boy getting a place to live. I see baby boy completely fucking DSO and costing DSO more than he bargained for. I do not see my weekends and life being put on hold for that Asshole like we had to do when he was a minor. That part is guaranteed.
DSO will be 53 in a few weeks. He has worked a blue collar job for years and never contributed to a 401 until him and I got together.
And he just texted that the trial is continued bc he just got his lawyer. DSO just blew 2 vacation days to pine around for an asshole that has no respect for him.
I saw SS' mugshot. The kid looks like he is on meth. DSO would never admit it but SD says SS does do it.