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Advice for negotiating a better relationship with my step children

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Submitted by bookgirl on Sun, 08/14/2016 - 11:57am

Hi everyone. I've been a stepmom for almost ten years now. In that time, things have been rough. I barely have a relationship with my stepchildren. They can't come to my house because they accused me of abusing them and I work with children. My husband supported my decree because he knew that they were risking my career by making these accusations. Through this, my husband has stood by me. He knows I love to work with children & that I never hurt my step children.

Difficult Situation

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Submitted by bookgirl on Thu, 01/27/2011 - 8:05pm

Lately things at BM's house have been hard for SD8. Her husband treats SD terribly and BM doesn't stand up for her. As a result, SD has been acting out (big surprise). Apparently she's been stealing. I want it to be known that I have never seen this side of SD because we treat her like a person!!
BM's husband
--only allows SD to have one toy in the living room at a time
--took away her cell phone for weeks after she only had it a few days for "disrespect" (he's lucky we're not the ones paying for it)

so freaking gross

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Submitted by bookgirl on Tue, 06/08/2010 - 7:07pm

I just survived the SK visit. I thought it went well at first. We spent most of the day outside. DH & I recently got a beautiful house. I'm a garden fanatic so I spent most of the visit weeding and stuff while they rode bikes.

DH has started being considerate

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Submitted by bookgirl on Wed, 04/07/2010 - 8:59pm

I realize that I often post on here when I'm frustrated/upset and typically DH has a lot to do with it. So I'm making a point to post that DH has been really considerate of me since we got in a huge fight over him not telling me 1-that SKs were coming over, 2-for how long, causing 3-us to have a huge fight and him to accuse me of not wanting SKs over ever.

SK visit leaves me nauseated

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Submitted by bookgirl on Wed, 03/31/2010 - 8:17pm

I got off work today to--SURPRISE, and unscheduled SK visit. I just got done with a long day at work. I was happy to learn that I'm pregnant last week, DH and I are now expecting our second child after a harrowing struggle with infertility. So, I'm exhausted and I've discovered a whole new variety of smells people bring in when looking for books and yes, I already was a little grouchy. Well, now I'm nauseated too. I think it's the stress.

MIL vent

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Submitted by bookgirl on Wed, 03/17/2010 - 10:45am

I realized something last night. My MIL has had all of her grandchildren over to her house to spend the night or just hang out...except BS. DH and I talked about it and we both agree that MIL's involvement in the lives of all of her grandchildren is fairly negligent, but BS is consistently ignored by her. And yes, BS is my sone with DH, so he is her biological grandchild.

The latest on "cowboy" SS

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Submitted by bookgirl on Tue, 03/02/2010 - 11:06pm

Today DH and I were just hanging out. We had the tv on but neither one of us were really watching it, just cleaning house and kind of doing different things. Suddenly DH looked at the TV and laughed and said something like, "Check out that moron". There was a comedy sketch of a folk singer, dressed just like BM dresses SS4!!

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