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because BM didn't buy either of the kids a birthday present. She didn't even acknowledge their b-days! They turned 12 & 14 this week.
She didn't buy them gifts.
She didn't come to their party.
She didn't call them.
She didn't send them a card.
She didn't even message them on myspace or facebook.
These kids are so hurt, and DH is fuming at BM. He typed up an email to her, telling her not to hurt the kids anymore.
I found out plenty at the attorney's office today...she is looking to accept the plan that she helped set up but then recanted it to her attorney. I documented the meeting, dh called the attorney and sent an email right afterward. BM just doesn't want to pay $200 a month in CS.
DH is going to let her suffer until next week. That is when the court hearing is set. DH (and me) have spent 16k so far for what?? Her to back down...its the principal and she makes plenty of money she doesn't want to ruin her shopping addiction.
DH's grandmother passed away a few days ago. It wasn't a surprise, but all of us were sad to say goodbye. The funeral was today. When DH & I arrived at the service, there was BM with her parents. I definitely agree that if they were close she had a right to say goodbye, but after BM had an affair, DH's grandmother never had a nice word to say to her. She made it clear that if BM ever showed up at her house again, she would be told to leave. So there she was. To top it off, BM sat right behind DH & I during the service. I'm actually surprised she didn't stay for dinner afterward.
SS was describing BM's current financial situation and used an interesting choice of words. Instead of describing BM's job as "her" job or her money as "her" money, he kept saying "our" and "we". Here's what he told us:
This just burns me up! The woman has been doing this for years and I just get so mad every time I hear about it. SS loves $2 bills, Sacagawea and silver dollars, so there are a few people that will get them for him when they can to add to his collection. Last night, SS and MIL were sitting on the couch talking about his money that he keeps here, and she asked him if he still had his collection at his Mom's house. He said no, his Mom had been having to take his $2 bills and silver dollars to spend on bills.
I was wondering if anyone can offer some helpful advice. I have a 5 year old SD, who after 3 years of a bad custody battle between her parents, we finally get to see her for an extended period of time, who is having a large number of behavior problems. I don't know if she acts the same way at her mothers house as she does ours, but from the things she has told me and her father, she is in trouble at her daycare all the time and a lot with her mom.
I have a 17 yr stepdaughter all this time never caught her talking about me behind my back. Now I hear her talking about me, I just don't feel same way. I got angry, sadness, all mix emotions. Spoke to my dad asking if i could come over just to get piece of quite mind. I did not wanted to comforted her because she has a loud mouth, attitude, always think is right or either her way or highway.
I left the house that night did not come back for two days. Now today she came to house say hi to my daughter did not do eye contact with me and left.
After the second time DH found out that BM and her fiance were taking the skids to accident scenes during their time on call as volunteer firefighters, he notified BM via email that he would not tolerate this in the future. So once again the skids tell us that BM and fiance had left the skids alone (they are 9 and 11) at the firehouse so they could go on "a call." So Dh went in and (very calmly) told the fire chief that he did not feel it was appropriate for our kids to be exposed to accident scenes or left unattended at the fire house.
Okay so here is the story - please tell me if you think we have a shot as normally it seems the BM must do severely heinous acts for a transfer of custody. FH and BM have shared physical and joint legal custody. They separated when my 2 SS's were 6 months and 18 months. Since then (4 years) she has had 4 men move in and out of the home and spawned 2 children while still married to FH but separated amd a;so has moved several times. In 2006 she called FH saying come get the children I cannot handle them anymore.
The above is a a quote from my Mom.
As parents, we all impart some baggage on our kids. Some of us burden our Spawn (Step or Bio) with more severe baggage than others.
As my Mom once told me when I was bitching about some now unremembered complaint during my teen years, "At some point problems children inherit from parents become the child's problem to solve so you are going to have to solve this one because I obviously could not figure it out before I passed the problem on to you".
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