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THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH

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Submitted by EvilDiva on Tue, 08/18/2009 - 11:32am

I spoke with SD14 and told her about her grandfather passing away and she said, I bet he is in a better place now, no pain and no cancer. I gave her the options: attend the funeral, attend the burial wit funeral party or go by yourself with H at later time. She opted for the latter as she said there is no way she wants to be caught up in any drama. She then....tear tear...thanked me for being straight up with her and just helping her in every way. (Makes me cry!)

Moved post, I'm going in...

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Submitted by LizzieA on Tue, 08/18/2009 - 10:12am

In order to make it clear that this was not directed at any particular person....

I have stayed out of the "soap-box" posts when someone either complains about the other posters or defends themselves against those posters. If you follow me.

This site has been a fabulous help to me in realizing that the stuff I went through and the strange behavior I experienced was not unique to me. I am the mother of 2 grown daughters and have had 2 previous marriages and a lot of relationships, so you could say I am experienced.

My Vent - I have never been as disgusted / discouraged as I was yesterday

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Submitted by Stick on Tue, 08/18/2009 - 9:35am

I feel that I have a right to post this, as I was in the thick of it yesterday.

To borrow my take on a context from JoJo....
There are bad fathers
There are definitely bad bio moms, eh?
But .. THERE ARE ALSO BAD STEP PARENTS.
Making someone a member of Steptalk does not guarantee that they are, indeed, good stepparents whose advice should be followed blindly.

I don't want to get into the whole debate of vent versus spewing venom. Or the why it is good to debate. We all have talked that one to death - literally.

I can't find advice on this anywhere else.

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Submitted by SMIT on Tue, 08/18/2009 - 7:52am

Can someone offer some advice on how to help/deal with a 7 year old stepson who is jealous of his 15 month old baby brother and who constantly acts out for attention? All of the stuff I’m seeing online talks about helping toddlers and preschoolers with their jealousy of babies, but nothing about second graders. I’m dreading the days SS comes to our house because he’s either arguing with us, screaming like a little girl, pouting over not getting his way, or being too “in your face” with the baby. I love SS but I don’t like how he’s acting right now.

Please advise me. . .

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Submitted by FutureSM on Tue, 08/18/2009 - 7:33am

Don't know if I have ever felt this hopeless about my future with FH...I need y'alls help! (Yes I said y'all, I AM from the South!) At this moment I am miserable...my FH quit his job in June due to a lot of reasons I won't get into here (incase any crazies try to read my blogs...)and I was 100% supportive, thinking he would be so much happier not having to go there every day. Well, now he is just as unhappy being at home. And it's starting to piss me off to tell you the truth. I get my ass up and go to work EVERY day, while he does nothing but lay around and watch movies.

A woman from the guardian's office called DH yesterday wanting to set up a Settlement Conference

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Submitted by mrsparks on Tue, 08/18/2009 - 6:51am

What exactly does that mean?
She's not a mediator in any way and once again DH wants to know what it's all about before he drives 1.5 hours away for more of BM's b.s.

DH called our attorney for some guidance on the situation or to possibly find out if the attorney can give us some clue of what the settlement conference could be about

We haven't spoken to the GAL since she came to our home at the end of July, but we have left her several messages as that's what our attorney instructed us to do

If there is a HELL, I fear I am going there....

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Submitted by EvilDiva on Tue, 08/18/2009 - 5:20am

Hi, ST....been gone for a while, busy at work. I come in need of some confession time. On Sunday, H receives text from BM that her father is gravely ill and she wants SD14 (we are custodial parents) to come see him before he passes. SD14 is at friend's house for weekend. H and I discuss it and he asks me if SD14 should go.

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