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The one common thing that seems to bind all of us together is a BM. A really ridiculous, petty, self-absorbed BM. I've begun to think: what made these women they way that they are. It's one thing not to care about us (the SM), but to make your own child miserable in order to make us miserable....what have you done with your life?!?! Why, who, what made you the way that you are. I can't ever, Ever, EVER imagine myself having children and then treating them the way that the BM treats these boys.
I've been having conflicting feelings about whether or not I want to stay with BF. There are many reasons not to be with him and at the center of it all would probably be his 5 yr old son. He is a pretty normal kid but I honestly think he's slowly taking away my desire and dream to have children of my own. It's not that I can't stand him, but I do retreat to be on my own as much as I can when he's around. I don't know how much more I can take. I can't imagine the rest of my life being so infuriating and irritating. I love my BF but I don't know if he's worth it.
How do Dh and I tell his three year old daughter that she is going far away and will not be back for a long time?
How do we express that we don't like this idea without blaming anyone for it?
Read WTF for more info on why.
Here we go...
Well May Long weekend 2005 I started to date my DH. We were both fresh out of highschool and he was planning on living in New Zealand for a year, once he had saved enough money. I convinced him that its better to have to say good bye then to never have known someone.
So, my Dad and SM are having a surprise 65th bday party tomorrow nite for my step-grandma...well the skids weren't supposed to be around...they were supposed to go with FH's parents up to their cottage. Well, when I got home tonight I was told that the skids were going to the party with us. I'm happy that they want to come to MY familiy's party but i'm pissed that FH didn't discuss it with me first.
So, my skids, who have been behaving beautifully recently, have told us over and over again in the past few weeks that they don't want to live with their mom anymore and want to live with us and just visit their mom a little bit. I feel mixed about this, but I think it would definitely be better for them if we flipped the custody and had residential custody instead of BM. We still get them 50/50 but they have been saying that they wish they could sleep over at our place every night. It's really sad when they beg us and don't understand why we can't make it happen immediately.
I have lost all faith in the Family Court system. I have no idea how a judge can rip a three year old girl away from her father who has never done anything without thinking about her. He has held the same job for the last 7 years, made a home for her that has not changed in the last year, and has provided her with steady caregivers who have always been family and has never just dissappeared from her life. I quit. There is nothing to hope for now because if the BM does anything that would merit changing the out come of the trial today it is going to really hurt my beloved SD.
My son is 12 and my stepson is 5. My stepson has lived with his dad and I since he was just 1yr old. The mother lives in another state. We have been living with my mom on and off for the last 4 years and we're living with her now so the kids see her everyday. My mom has always been known as extremely nice, caring and giving but I have been noticing that she doesn't treat my stepson as good as she does my son. She is nice to him and when my son isn't around, she will take my stepson to the store with her and stuff but when my son is around its a different story.
One of the many reasons my husband won custody of his daughter was because she was being neglected by her mother as far as her education was concerned. Let me preface this by saying I in no way think my way is best for anyone but me and my birth child, but it has worked and my husband has been around me long enough to understand the importance that I put on education. But, yes there is the but, Ever since she has been with us, he seems to be just as non-invovled as the mother must have been.
I am going to ruin my whole weekend and I know it...DH went to pick up SS,and he calls me to say that SS has gastro...and that BM said that if we were unable to tend to his needs that she could keep him this weekend...as she is so much more qualified than we are to care for a sick child (both DH and I being healthcare professionals, her being a useless thing...)and then DH says he will try to see if she is willing to come drop off SS at his work next pick up date instead of driving the 70 miles to go get him...this coming from him after she harrassed us for months to the point where our lay
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