One of the many reasons my husband won custody of his daughter was because she was being neglected by her mother as far as her education was concerned. Let me preface this by saying I in no way think my way is best for anyone but me and my birth child, but it has worked and my husband has been around me long enough to understand the importance that I put on education. But, yes there is the but, Ever since she has been with us, he seems to be just as non-invovled as the mother must have been. First of all she is eleven years old in the fifth grade and is reading at a third or fourth grade level. When I try to help, she gets beligerant, rolls her eyes, blows air, or just stares off. I have ways of dealing with this , but that is the point when he just tells her it's okay. He so afraid to parent her, that she tries to manipulate us, but I find myself checking out of the situation, before I say something really mean, because I don't need the aggravation. He refuses to talk to her about her behavior, and when I try to talk to him about it, he just walks away, yet he wants me to take care of her, all the while, her mother is calling on her court ordered call days telling her all kind of negative things and when she comes back from her weekend with her mom it horrible. Apparently the chid may or may not have started her period, noone has told me anything, oh, did I mention she is a habitual liar. She says on her last visit with her mom, she went to a doctor who told her she was having a period. No one told her father either that I know of. No accidental clothing in the laundry. When I asked why didn't her mom tell her dad, she says her mom doesn't want her dad to know anything.
WOW...I'm new here and I'm wearing out my welcome already, I'm just frazzled that's all. I just need a break!!!!!!