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Submitted by FEELINGUSED on Mon, 10/19/2009 - 8:41am

SD just got back from her EOW visit with her idiotic BM, this after telling her dad last week that she wanted to go back and live with the nut case even though the court found her unfit, cause she does not want to follow our rules. Today, my DH got a subpeona in the mail for the 11 yr old genius. Of course the Judge told both my DH and the BM that under no circumstances was the child to come to the court house again, yes she drug her there before trying to help her case. They could see that she was coached so well her mother could take Jim Zorns job. She has court ordered phone calls twice a week, and I'm sure her boyfriend is going to try to call our house to speak to my DH's daughter, he has done it before, DH answered the phone( he is back in the picture, he is 23, the BM son is 20, go figure) he and my DH hate each other, but my DH will be at work during her call time, I'm thinking, I'll say she is waiting for a call from her mom and hang up, and not give her the phone until she calls herself, (childish I know) but it's her call time, not his. What would you do?

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Submitted by Jeans222 on Mon, 10/19/2009 - 8:55am

since the court proved her unfit, so you say...
is it possible ? to avoid this drama that you request supervised visits when she goes to see BM?
That should end lots of the problems your having when she comes home.

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Submitted by FEELINGUSED on Mon, 10/19/2009 - 12:52pm

Oh yeah before SD11 came to live with us she was calling the BF daddy, right in my DH's face. (she claimed her mother made her do it) Her mother is 40, she has a 20 yr old son and an 18 yr old son also. Yet she never had enough food, clothes, or anything else, because nobody had a freaking job. MY DH provided EVERYTHING for SD all year long plus CS. Basically SD meant a check for BM and she would have SD call and ask if he put it in the mail monthly like clockwork. as soon as he got custody, everyone moved out, now that it's time for her appeal to come around, the boyfriend is back and SD is being coached both on the phone and on her visits and she is finding everything here unfair. Boo hoo hoo!!!

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Submitted by fedupstepdad on Mon, 10/19/2009 - 9:03am

I recently went through something similar where out SC out right lied to our faces and told the judge what she was coached to say by her bd and then had the nerve to tell us WE were pressuring her because we told her to tell the TRUTH. Well you know what, actions have consequences...she wants to go live with her messed up Mom...maybe you should let her...i'm sure her bd doesn't want to even think that but truth is she is going to play divide and conquer as long as she can because that is all she probably knows...tough love ain't easy..but it's real. If you don't want to go that route then fight her in court...she's already been seen as unfit and an 11 year old should not have the right to decide where she stays...she doesn't know better! Good luck!