DH has a friend (I'll call him Jim) that lives in the area. DH and Jim used to hang out a lot- help each other with side work, work around the house, but they don't hang out as much now.

They only really became friends once DH and I got together- over 6 years ago. So Jim didn't know the skids prior to me and DH being together.

Jim does know SS but doesn't really know girl skids because they are never around and when they were coming around Jim was never really around.

So when Potato Gate happened, DH and the skids did run to Jim's house and it did cause some damage about how friend and his wife felt about me. (I was the bitch to DH's precious snowflakes) I don't think we ever fully recovered from that. I do like Jim more then his wife as the wife kind of has an attitude and just all around scowl face, etc. Like she just seems miserable. Also around the time that DH and I got married I felt like she tried to cause some issues with me and the wife of DH's best friend. So we just have this mutual understanding, if we see each other- cool but if not we are fine too. I just get the impression wife doesn't care for me that much and that's fine but I feel the same way. But I think it stems from the skids.

So graduation weekend- Jim calls DH and DH tells him he is at home and Jim asks where YSD is. I thought it was kind of odd because Jim should know that YSD does not come over to the house. But I just brushed it off. Then next evening around 7:30 DH invited friend, his best friend and I invited my friend over to the house for drinks. So Jim texts DH "I'll stop by. Where is YSD." (phone was sitting right where I could read the text).

So I ask DH "Why does Jim keep asking about YSD?" and DH tells me "I think he has a card for her". So I'm thinking- he has probably only been around YSD 5 times in 3-4 years. This "friend" and wife didn't even get me and DH a WEDDING card, but he has a card for someone he hardly knows?????

So I tell DH I think it's really weird "Does Jim even know YSD like that???"

DH tells me "Well YSD stopped over to his house like 2 weeks ago with her BF to say hi."

So now I'm really annoyed...

Why is YSD stopping by his house? DH tells me all snotty "Well she lives in the neighborhood now." (Okay, well what is a 18 year old doing just dropping by her father's friends house that she hardly knows.)

So I ask how she even knows where Jim lives and DH said "She came over a few times when I have been there."

Hmmm okay... so now you are secretly meeting up with YSD at your friends house?

YSD stopped coming to our house in 2012. Once a month (sometimes more, sometimes less) DH will take her to dinner/lunch/movies, etc. That is the extent of their relationship as far as I know.

So I'm like- are you like having visits with YSD over at Jim's house??? He's like No- if I have been over there and she called and I told her to stop by. But it was really only a few times and it's been awhile since that happened.

I honestly can't see DH just hanging with YSD at friend's house and he really hasn't been over there that much recently. And yes I look at DH's phone and I rarely see phone calls from YSD- just texts demanding money. So I'm not sure if DH is making it seem like YSD has been over to Jim's house more then she has, because he's trying to not make it look so bad that she just stopped over at friends house????

Either way... I was bothered by it. I'm like can't I have ANYTHING with you DH that the skids don't have to be involved in??????

Can't have a "normal" relationship with DH because of the skids. Can't have a "normal" relationship with DH's family because of the skids and now I have to worry about his friends????

I don't like YSD at all. So pretty much anyone being involved with her (not family) just rubs me the wrong way because I'm like why do people want to be around her???

I find it weird, her just stopping be Jim's house though she is totally the type that she thinks very highly of herself so she would think that everyone wants to see her and that they appreciate her randomly stopping by.