I spoke too soon... as always
As soon as I think things are good and express it the universe always reminds me... LOL...
Little background- MSD was always close to DH and me. Then all of a sudden (or I happened to notice) that she was doing very manipulative things. Telling her sisters I said/did stuff that I didn't do causing issues with me and them. Then she started to steal from me. Things that were important and meant something to me. Then she put her hands on me. Her and DH had a falling out over that and he hadn't spoken to her in 2 1/2 years.
Prior to the fight I felt like DH never really had my back. He always had an excuse for his kid's behavior. He always made it seem like I needed to get over it. I was always on edge never knowing what to expect. It sucked. I dont even feel like he had my back during the fight. But because MSD told him as long as he was with me she wouldn't talk to him, that is how they ended up initially not talking this whole time.
However, it was a blessing that MSD did what she did because it's been peaceful without having to deal with her. Our marriage and communication improved. Prior I am not sure we would have survived.
It never did sit right with me though that they stopped talking. Though it was on them to work it out I still worried about it. Worried that he would later resent me for it. But DH always had the stance "Until she apologizes to you I'm not talking to her."
I know he missed her and his grandson and then she had another baby during this time. But anytime I brought it up it was always "She needs to apologize". I felt like he finally had my back. Okay he understood the severity of the situation.
So Monday I come home from work and there's mail and it's lawyer advertisement so I open it guessing SS got in trouble again and I was right. (his mail gets sent to our house but he's a Jr and DH is a SR and it's never addressed to Jr so I never know who the mail is for).
SS got picked up for an outstanding warrant for a dirty pee test while on probation for OVI.
DH comes home (in a super good mood by the way which I never get "that DH") and I'm like look at the mail and he's like "I know my daughter told me." So I HATE when he says "my daughter" and the way he says it. Just say a name instead of "my daughter" all sugary and entitled. Ugh.I assume he's talking about OSD.
So I go about my evening but I just feel/know something more is up. It's like SM Spidey Sense.
Tuesday he texts me after work that he is going to do a side job. He comes home 3 hours later and I thought hmmmmm I'm surprised it took that long. I even say "It took that long? you weren't anyway else?" and he's like nope.
Well my nosey ass in front of him looks on his phone and see that he has been texting with MSD and OSD and a lot of phone calls back and forth between the 3 of them Monday and Tuesday. So I put the phone down and just go upstairs because I'm pissed.
MSD texted him all these pictures of her and her kids and even pictures of BM with the kids. Really the 20 other pictures you sent weren't enough you had to throw in a few of BM too?
And I'm pretty sure he went and saw MSD after work yesterday and then went to his side job but told me he just went to his side job.
I'm not upset that he's talking to his daughter. He should. But I feel like he's keeping it a secret from me. Why? Yes he knows that I don't like her but I think with the history and the fact that she is back in his life (and kind of mine) that he should at least mention it. I feel like at this point in our marriage that it warrants a mention.
The girl skids have always been a threat to our marriage. Jealous, manipulative and shit starters. So of course now I am on high alert and stressed about it and not sure what is going to happen.
Given the history I do not feel like DH has my back when it comes to the skids. Now it's been awhile since we have had to deal with that but it's still a hard thing to get over. But no I don't trust him to deal with them and protect me, our marriage and our home if shit goes down.
Also, I hate how everything seems so secretive with his daughters because it makes me feel like it's them against me.
I tell him "I'm glad you're talking to her again but it's the fact that you didn't say anything to me considering the history and situation" and he says "Don't care it's my kid." So he's back on that...
I have no idea how everything is going to play out. Any helpful advice would be appreciated. Thanks for letting me vent.