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zerostepdrama's picture

Monday night I had a dream about MSD19. I havent really thought about her. The dream (which made sense when I was having it and right afterwards)was a jumble of issues I have had/have with MSD. It was so weird. We were fighting really bad it in and saying awful things to each other.

I woke up feeling a little odd, since I hadn't thought about her recently and normally my dreams are about things/stuff/people I had recently thought about.

Anyways, me being nosey yesterday (not even thinking about the MSD dream)I look at DH's phone. I see a text from MSD.

MSD: I need to talk to you.

DH: Talk

MSD: I need to talk to you in person.

DH calls MSD.

I havent said anything to DH nor will he tell me anything that is going on with MSD. He knows I could care less about her. Anything negative he may say about her, is just more fuel to my fire in regards to my feelings about her.

Its very odd for MSD to reach out to DH like that, so I am assuming it's something serious.

Maybe she wants money, is getting kicked out of her apartment?

Maybe she is pregnant again?

Maybe there is an issue with her current BF, who DH has an issue about. (Remember when I posted awhile back about DH not liking her BF but wouldnt tell me why.)

I am just hoping that it isnt something that is going to affect us personally. Our home, our marriage, etc.

I guess I always assume the worse. Especially when it comes to MSD.

I dont think that MSD and DH have talked much since the whole blow up with her boyfriend and that was back in the beginning of the year.

I will wait it out. Hopefully no news from DH is good news. But knowing my DH, I will run into MSD in a few months and she will be pregnant and homeless and DH will not of told me.

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zerostepdrama's picture

Part of the dream was that BM bought a house in the neighborhood next to ours! LOL And it was a nicer neighborhood and I was pissed!

DH was secretive before with his kids, even when things were good. DH isnt much of a communicator. Then for him to have to actual speak about the failures of his kids, its too much for him. When MSD got pregnant at 17, DH wouldnt talk about it at all. He acted like it just didnt even happen.

DH pretty much knows (or should know) that I give zero fucks about MSD, so whatever her issue is, I am not helping, I'm not involved, I dont care. So that is probably why he wont tell me. She got married? He knows I dont care. She's pregnant again? He knows I dont care.

zerostepdrama's picture

My first thought is she is pregnant too.

But when she was pregnant the first time she never actually told DH. YSD told DH. Then DH saw MSD and they never talked about. Never once. So I find it kind of odd that she would all of the sudden grow some balls this time and actually tell DH herself. She truly hasnt aged much and this would be her 2nd baby daddy.

The apartment she lives in, is through DH's work. Even though he really has nothing to do for the apartment, but maybe she is behind on her rent and thinks that DH can do something about it?

She pays more in rent then we do on our mortgage. I am actually VERY surprised she has managed to keep the apartment as long as she has.

hereiam's picture

I am just hoping that it isnt something that is going to affect us personally. Our home, our marriage, etc.

This is why I ask about, and talk to my DH about, SD23. I have no emotional investment in her whatsoever UNLESS it affects me and mine. So, I like to stay on top of it so I can do damage control if necessary. Plus, I like hearing from DH himself that he knows SD is a liar and tries to manipulate him. The fact that he is aware of this is reassuring.

I would just have to know what she wanted!

zerostepdrama's picture

When I had read some texts between DH and MSD regarding DH not liking her BF and when I asked him about it, why he didnt like the BF, he wouldnt tell me. I was so mad, annoyed, pissed. Oh man it drove me nuts that he wouldnt tell me. He still hasnt told me.

I havent even asked him, because if he doesnt tell me, then its just going to annoy me and cause a tiff between us.

I'm a nosey person, so not knowing bothers me. BUT the way I look at it. I know she is a loser. I know she makes bad choices. I guess at the end of the day I dont need to know the details.

DH wont tell me anything since he knows I'm not going to help MSD in any way.

Shit when she was homeless with a baby, I wouldnt let her move in. So I think DH pretty much knows my charity for MSD is ZERO. So he knows whatever is going on with her, I will most likely use it as fuel to feed my dislike for her, as opposed to using it for something good, like to help her.

zerostepdrama's picture

Remember how mad I was about it when it first happened? When he wouldnt tell me about the BF?

I did say last night while we were in bed, "Anything you want to talk about???"
Crickets.

I might have to do some FB snooping.