This is what was done in 90 minutes
SIL who lives in NC had evacuated back to home state and was making her way back to NC and stopped over in our state and stayed the night. I was out of town for work.
This is what happened in 90 minutes or less. From the time that SS (and his GF and her 2 kids) and OSD (and her DH and their 3 kids)till the time they left.
They showed up at 8:30 on a school night and stayed until 10.
All the adults (including my DH) sat in the living room wile my BS13 basically "babysat" the kids ages 5,4,3,2,1. And by "babysat" I mean he basically spent 90 minutes stopping the kids from destroying his bedroom, from trying to get them to stop jumping on my bed and to get out of my office and to stop pulling my 19 year old cats tail.
OSD's 5 year old bit BS13 when BS tried to stop him from going into his bedroom. (Not just saying this because he's my kid but my BS is VERY good with kids so it's not like BS was being mean.)
A pole from the railing in the living room was broke.
I have BS's toys in a basket in the living room for my g-niece. They were played with and BS had to pick them up after everyone left. One of the toys was a handmade drum and stick set that came from Canada and was broken.
A couple of days later when I came home I found a teether, bottle lid and bottle of Pepsi (that had leaked and had no lid on it) underneath the chair in the living room.
The real icing on the cake was seeing an accidental video that my DH recorded of my SIL (who is normally very kind) "screaming" at my BS to put down OSD's 1 year old. My BS was carrying him down the very small hallway, out of his bedroom and back to OSD. SIL was screaming at BS about how he was going to hurt "the baby" and he needed to put him down. Instead of looking at her niece (OSD) and saying, grab your child from causing destruction in someone's house.
A couple of things to note:
DH rarely sees or talks to OSD and it's been years since she's been in our house because both her and her DH are thieves, her DH is a recovering addict and OSD and I don't like each other and she has been outright disrespectful to me. However when family comes to town DH likes to use our house as a meeting spot and thinks everything is water under the bridge when it comes to his family being in town and the skids.
Since I was out of town and it's been awhile I decided I wasn't going to stress about it.
BS said that SS's GF's kid were really good and OSD's kids were really bad. Not surprised. I could tell BS didn't want to tell me any of the bad stuff that had happened but it came out over time in conversations.
BS said he introduced himself (with a handshake)to OSD's DH since he had never met him and BS said that he acted like he didn't know what to do. LOL. Guess he's not used to kids with manners.
I'm really annoyed with my SIL for yelling at BS and acting like he did something wrong when it was clear he was the one watching all the kids while the adults didn't care. That should not have fallen on a 13 year old.
So much shit going on in 90 minutes... This is why I don't want OSD around. Little stuff but still super annoying.