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I know this has probably been asked before, but I just thought I'd see how everyone else feels about this.
For my situation, I blame DH and BM because they are the adults and skids were very young. Kids learn behavior from their parents. They need rules & boundaries. At the time, there were no rules and boundaries in place for them. The skids were 7 and 9 when the situation was at its worst. However, I know some of you have adult skids and teenage skids and I do think there's a point where one should know better. I just don't know where that point is.
and guess who will be footing the bill in our house...you guessed it Moi! DH and BM will have to pay 50% each of the bill. Right now DH is making squat financially at his job, and already has accumulated thousands of dollars of lawyer bills fighting BM over this placement schedule. I had to return back to work about two months ago, and don't really relish in the idea of having my entire paycheck now going to pay for the skids braces.
I know that a lot of you here have skids who are the "only children." Heck, I was an only child until my mom married my stepdad. I'm older than my stepsibs, but it was still a huge adjustment for me.
I think that this situation becomes a lot more complex in a step/blended family (as do a lot of other things!). For instance, Dad and Mom divorce and only have 1 child (SS or SD). Then Dad remarries someone who does have children or someone who doesn't have kids but wants them in the future. Mom might remarry, but decides she doesn't want any more kids for whatever reason.
Ok, I don't have kids. But, now I have a SD, 9.
I really don't get it. I admit that I am intolerant.
I find her behavior towards her Dad: disrespectful.
Everything is an argument, and she never takes responsibility for her actions. Emotionally needy, always has to be the center of attention. (she must say Dada-1,000,000 times a day)(She also has takes over any conversation through (pick one)whining, crying, asking inane questions, etc..etc...
Sometimes, I would rather cut off my own hand than spend time with her.
Greetings fellow Steps!
I am a 45 Yr. Old stepdad who realizes he screwed himself and is good at it 
Scenario:
3 Teen/early SD's who hate me and I feel likewise...
No respect; not even acknowledgement of my existence except as the life support system for a wallet.
Love my 2nd wife of 1.5 yrs....and we were together past 6yrs....
So a few weeks ago i posted about buying the house of my dreams for my family and that SD was upset because she was given the smallest bedroom (see previous posts to get history on bartticus maximus). Well on Thanksgiving with all of the family here at my old house for one last celebration she was asked by her grandmother if she was excited about moving into the new house. She said "No, to be honest i've been thinking about going to live with my dad since it seems i'm not important enough to get the big bedroom in the new house!" My wife and her family were stunned.
I decided to tell my wife that if she wanted to have her little Thanksgiving dinner with SS and SD that was fine, but I wanted to take the other kids to my Grandparents' house for the day, so I could see the relatives that I don't ever get a chance to see. She was upset, but with the way that my SS has been acting lately, I can't even stand the thought of being around him. Even on Thanksgiving morning he was a little asshole!! I did feel bad because I would have loved to have taken my SD with me to my grandparents' house too, but I knew that would be pushing it.
She is becoming more and more selfish, and I've been trying to ignore it, because I don't want to get into with her, because I know BM will call BF and tell him how wrong I am, and then BF and I will get into it.
I bought her a playstation2 last year for her birthday. She will wake up and decide that SS10 can not use it. He will ask, and she will just say no. No reason, just because she wants to say no.
Thanksgiving 2009
BM was suppose to take the kids for a little bit but decided the night before that she did not have enough money. What that has to do with taking them to her house to see them on a holiday, I do not know.
So we ended up going to my moms, which was the plan all along. sd14 did not want to go as early as we did, but she did not have choice. We left our house around 1:30.
BF went out of state for Thanksgiving, my family is out of state and I had to work.
BAH!
Been blue for a little over a week now, so then aunt flo comes for a visit.... just pour salt on my already open wound of being alone... but PAIN and all the other lovely symptoms involved.
Then I call BF yesterday morning. I did not think I would have woke him up, but I did. I am talking to him and they I hear something like a "coo" in the background.
"Who are you with?" I ask.
"SS10 is in bed with me, why?" He stated.
:O
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