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My FDH and I have been together 1 and 1/2 years. We Knew eachother when we were little kids (eachothers first crush) My family and I moved away from our home town when I was around 12 and we lost touch. He married right out of high school and endured a miserable 8 year relationship with his now ex wife. She cheated on him throughout the marraige and 2 out of his 3 children may not be his. When he filed for divorce he asked his mom to get in contact with me (it had been many years) She gave him my phone number he called me and we have been in-seperable ever since.
First off, thank you guys for responding to my first post and giving me your own insight and words of encouragement. It has been much appreciated. As i have already mentioned i think one of the nicest things is just knowing that there are other people out there who feel the same way i do.
In the past I have posted about KittyCat (SD9) who has a wetting problem. We share 50/50 every other week with the Wookie. When KittyCat is with the Wookie, she sleeps in Wookie's bed everynight and wears a pull-up. KittyCat has been wearing pull-ups to bed her entire life at the Wookie's house. She has never been properly potty trained. She also has absolutely no shame about wetting the bed or wearing "diapers" as she calls it. She even told the teacher in front of her class that she would have to bring a diaper if she went on an overnight class trip.
I give up! Every effort I have made to help raise these kids in a safe and loving home has been thrown back in my face for over 4 years now, and I quit! I am not gonna be the nice guy anymore! My main concern is for my 4 children, don't get me wrong when (if) SS's decide they want to treat me with respect I will be there for them, but I have had enough of being treated like Sh*t!! I left my first marriage because my first husband was abusive, I will not let some little brats walk all over me, I will never live like that again!
Admittedly, my FH is absent-minded and often loses his headphones. But I know he has them today b/c we talked this morning with him using them! (I often ask b/c he likes the "togetherness" of phone calls on speaker phone while his son is in the car, and I find it intrusive). We are apart this week b/c of my work, and he was calling me on his way home from a work function that he took his 10 year old son to (b/c it was moved to Monday, I am not there to be with the son, and the BM wouldn't take him), and without me knowing it the whole, f-ing conversation was on speaker phone!!!
I have only known my partner 40, for a year and in that time have been full time step mother to his 4 year old daughter. I am only 24. I can't stand my sd. I can't stand to be in the same room as her. She is horrible. I LOVE children. But i find myself unable to love my sd. She acts like she is 2. She is obviously daddy's little princess. She has out of control tantrums every day. She talks like she is slow. Acts like she is slow and pretends she is slow.
Im at my wits end. I love this man, but i can not and will not love his child.
I've noticed over the past few days I've been here that the majority of posters here are downright contemptible of their stepkids. It seems like a huge amount of energy and anger is spent accusing and arguing with these kids. Kids suck as a general rule. This has been my opinion since.. well.. since I was a kid. I don't dislike my stepson. I love him. He's spoiled and he gets away with things a boy his age who would have grown up in a two parent home would never have gotten away with. His mother has had to work most of his life.
It's been a while, huh? A piece of information that is critical to this story is that I have worked in the field of ophthalmology for several years. So a little over a month ago, SS was prescribed glasses to try to prevent one of his eyes from becoming a lazy eye.
how would you and your partner handle it?
Would you be mad? Hurt? Disgusted?
I ask because I was named after my mom and am her spitting image. I think that's part of why my stepmother hates me.
I have been married for 11 years and most of those years have been good. My husband has custody of his daughter. She moved in when she was 8. Her mother had disappered with her for 5 years. When we found her she was on her way to jail for armed robbery. His daughter said that her mom had been telling her that he hated her and didnt want anything to do with her. Well after 3 years she is finally coming around to loving her father and knows that he loves her. Thats all well and good but her mother is the DEVIL.
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