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I'm elevating the final question in my last blog, cause I'm really not sure what to do tonight! If you read through the last one posted this morning, you'll see that my DH got angry at me about something stupid, cause I DARED to question something to do with the Golden Child, also known as SS11.
He's acting today like everything is fine, but I'm not happy about the way he acted last night. I'm not sure if I should make him talk to me about his defensiveness or just let sleeping dogs lie, and chalk it up to a bad night...any advice?
It has been WAY too quiet for our BPD BM. She cancelled visitation this w/end w/SD16. She has not sent nasty emails or demands. She has not called w/sarcastic messages. She cannot text anymore (got rid of text feature due to her abusive texts sent to me and DH).
So my fiance moved away and essentially left me. Even though he claims that it's just for awhile and that we should get married soon and I would move up there as well. Right now we are long distance (again) and its an 8 hr drive between us. At first it didn't bother me so much but the more time away from him that I am and the more I've had to think about things, the more I realize he hasn't taken into account my feelings in all of this and just expected me to move with him.
In response to Giana222's blog; feeling bad for BM.
I'm getting increasingly frustrated with the double standards that seem to apply for BMs & SMs. When we have SS10 for the weekend we make sure there are activities planned that include him, involve him in our normal weekend chores and spend the whole day with him (we have never got a sitter & gone out in the evening for example).
BMs facebook page on Saturday boasted about not getting out of bed until 12.30, and then on Sunday she'd stubbed her toe so was going to have a day on the sofa with chocolate & chick flicks.
Published in this morning's paper...
Dear Amy: I recently got divorced. My wife told me she had fallen out of love, and I agreed to leave.
We have two girls, ages 6 and 9. We're great parents and get along well. We try to be good for the sake of the children.
My older daughter has blamed my ex for making her daddy leave. She's out of control and doesn't mind her mother well.
They argue constantly. Our daughter is having trouble in school and is lying and being disobedient.
Wow what an emotional rollercoaster ride this past weekend has been with fdh and fss meeting my family for the first time. My family adored them both and can not wait for all of us to come back. I just wish that we did not live so far away from them so that we could visit them more often. The one point that my family did make was they think that fss is immature and needs to grow up at 14 he acts worse than my 5 year old son. I explained that he will grow up when fdh family quits treating him like he is a baby.
DH's sister picked up SD at the court ordered pickup location this Friday as SD would be at a kid party until we got her later that evening.
WELL - BM sent SD without a coat - it was 44 degrees here on Friday evening, without socks, without her asthma medication, and with clothing sizes 5 - 6 and no pj's at all... she wears a 7/8................
I am so dang glad I had gone out 2 weeks ago and purchased her a wardrobe of clothing for our house... Sister N Law picked up the bag from BM...where as we were going to just let BM take it back home.
I can't believe it, she caught ss14 having sex with his girlfriend, and then let them go out this weekend to an amusement park, and she paid for it and drove them there!!!WTF!!!! I called her tonight and let her have it, I told her SS 14 needs a parent not a friend, she hung up on me I called back and SS14 answered and I told him he should not be making these adult decisions when he is not able to take care of himself he said " it's none of your fucking business.
How can life be so complicated. How can leaving an unhappy loveless marriage in the past put me in a life with more turmoil. I may have found love now but why do I feel like my life is spinning out of control more than ever. I know I need help but what kind of help. Why do I put myself in a situation knowing in my heart I didn't want to be, like taking a role of a stepmom for two kids I know nothing about, moving to another city away from my own young adult kids, family, and leaving a well paid government job of many years.
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