So my husband and I have finally put our foot down with bio mom. We are going to take her to court for custody of my step child. My husband and I live in a great school district and city, low crime, low poverty. BM lives 2 hours away in the opposite scene. We had signed the little one up for a preK drawing to make sure we got a school that had a 10 out of a 10 rating and we did. My husband asked her if we could enroll the child in school her response was "He doesn't need preK he's in daycare".

I told DH if BM doesn't repect boundries with the phone calls, then we will have to turn to email. My DH tells me it's impossible to have 50/50 custody and only communicate by email. I said there were families who do it and he said who? Please, so I can tell DH "I told you so", if you have 50/50 custody and the bios ONLY communicate by email, please let me know! (this doesn't include phone calls the kids make to their parents) If I can convince him it does happen, he might be more open to it.

SS9 comes running into the house. As I'm yelling "be careful the baby is in-" SS9 trips over baby who was playing in floor. Immediately, its chaos. Baby screaming and crying SS9 sits on the couch and bangs his head on the wall saying over and over "I can't do nothing right" I soothe baby and tell SS9 to start his homework and then continue cooking dinner. My typical SO ignores everything and continues watching TV. SS9 starts crying (he cries daily) and talking about what a looser he is. SO pulls SS9 into his lap and babies him.

I am so annoyed with how I am getting bent out of shape by the rude behavior of my SD12 – she is a freaking kid – yet when she is around, I am on edge. I know I am the adult and I am usually a pretty happy person. However, I hate that when she is around and in one of her rude moods, she makes me feel bad about myself and the “job” (because let’s face it – this is a nonpaying job) I am doing as a stepmom – I feel like screaming: What am I doing to YOU to make you be such a snarky brat to me?