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Hello everyone. I am the step-mother of 3 step-kids and 1 biology child(from my previous relationship). Actually only 2 of the step kids come, the oldest refuses to come over. Anyway, I've poured a lot of time and energy into trying to make things rum smoothly between both families and I've just come to realize that without both families working together, It's useless. So in order to maintain my sanity I've just decided to focus on things I can control such as the relationship between myself, my husband, and my biology child.
I have been thinking about things I know, but in different levels of comfort.
Things I know;
I love my DF and he worth all the stress.
He is devoted to me and our future.
His skids are not a huge part of our lives and do not pose a threat.
He is a father figure to the skids and that is okay.
Things I am not comfortable with;
His skids having any part of our lives
Him considering the skids to be "his children" since he raised them from a young age.
Him talking about them, to them...etc.
I came across this website, and said to my self. Where have ya been all my life! I've had an on going issue with my husbands daughters mother. Iv'e been with my husband for 9 yrs and we have a 5 yr old. She refuses to let us see his daughter, but is always asking for money! Does anyone have an ideas for me, to try to get visitation rights, or even joint custody/full.. Please help this has been an on going issue for the past 7 yrs!
As you know if you've read my other blogs from the last little while, lots is happening with the skids and BM right now. To recap, about 2 months ago, BF approached BM about paying $150 to finalize the divorce and she said she didn't have the money. A few weeks ago, she went out and bought a new 42" TV. It came out last weekend when BF had SS12 for a visit that he got their old 36" TV (which still works fine) for his bedroom to hook up to his wii. A few days ago, BM buys him a new video game as an early Easter present.
I love my DH! He's such a good dad.
My SS5 had a Nintendo DS that he loved to play (it was an old one that was my husbands). He would play rough with it, and we were regularly telling him to be careful, but he would forget sometimes as 5 year olds do.
Tonight, he broke it clean in two. What did DH do? Explained to SS5 that "You broke it, so you don't have it anymore" put him in time out, and then made SS5 put it in the trash. There is no chance we're going to be buying him another one any time soon. SS is devastated.
My SS(10) is failing math and reading. I tried to stay out of it b/c i've been told there's nothing I can do at this point with my SS. But I couldn't help myself, I can't stand seeing someone get bad grades when they just need some help. I had my brother come over and tutor him in math and we printed out pages and pages of reading comprehension worksheets. DH drops off SS to BM and tells her what all we did. No thanks...no nothing. Will this chick ever get over the fact that I'm married to her ex?
I have an interview tomorrow for a part time job. I am so excited! The problem is, other than teaching jobs, I haven't had an interview for 10 years! What do I need to know and say for a position at a chain department store? Anything I need to know? I got the interview because I know someone that works there, and that helps, and given the changing "climate" of our area, I thinks it helped that I speak Spanish. I've also had extensive computer training, most in the educational realm, but can carry over to the business sector. Advice please?
It's been 14 weeks since we've seen SD. She doesn't like our rules and has been PAS'd by BM. At first DH felt badly about her no longer coming but after everyone around us (relatives and our family counsellor) agreed that it's better if she doesn't come if she'll just cause problems and drama he has agreed. No one enjoyed her visits and our family gets along much better without the drama.
I was just reading through a few blogs and wanted to pause to thank the universe for having BM get married again several years ago. At the time it was annoying because they'd only dated a few months and got married just two months after we did (we'd been dating nearly 4 years). But BM's husband is a decent guy (if a little ditzy) and EVERYTHING CHANGED after she got married. Within a year it was nearly 180 degrees on her attitude toward boundaries and communication between the two households.
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