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2 days ago I asked my ss13 if he wanted to go get new shoes. I do continue to try... As usual he said NO. This morning he walks up to DH and says "Dad will you take me to get shoes today" I wanted to punch him in his face. What a brat! I am done!!! NEVER AGAIN!
I've seen a quote about skids being placed in adult spousal roles with their parents. Meaning a child is treated more like a spouse and authoritative figure than a child.
I have to wonder what will the parent do when these children grow up and (after attempting to sabotage all their parent's relationships) go off and find someone else to marry?
How are these children's new spouses treated? How do these children raise their own children? I wonder if there is ever any poetic justice as in these children have children that try to sabotage their marriage too?
Many of us SMs were actually BMs and raised our children successfully.
I noticed that several of us here are actually OLDER women who have grown, independent, emotionally healthy children who have gotten mixed up with YOUNGER men that are guilty daddies. Neither they nor the psycho PASinator BM know how to properly parent. And if they did they wouldn't due to laziness.
Anyway I wanted to write down the characteristics of GOOD BMs
1. Are able to see through their own children's attempts at manipulation
I'm really just pissed off and feel the need to vent on here. Even if there is no responses I feel better getting it out. SS9 is 40 pounds over weight. According to a doctor if he was of average size as an adult and this trend continued he would currently weight 296 pounds. Out of the 4 parents (BM/BF/SM/SF) I'm the only one who does any research on his food consumption (Binging and hoarding), as well as his Aspergers. Everyone else just lives in Lala land about everything.
I haven't been on the site much because the skids haven't really been bothering me all that much. Their weirdo mom is still an issue, but that will always be the case. Luckily for us, she moved 10 hours away.
And here it is. Parents need to teach their children these things. Sadly they aren't and especially not today's permissive parent when in the case of the "non intact" family.
it's ss15-now ss16's bday today. i didnt get him anything nor do i plan on it. he has been a little ass to me since christmas. is it wrong to not acknowledge the little turd? just doing the same as was shown to me on my bday 
Is doing the same thing over and over again but expecting a different result.
Sadly, same can be said for me. I complain about the way DH and BM handle issues with their children, and I blow up, but I never really do anything about it.
I write earlier in the week about SD16 lying about her whereabouts, and how I had to take off work and try to find out where she was at. Since then, STILL nothing has been done or any punishment given - not once have they discussed with her anything about her actions, that lying is wrong, etc. Just sweep it under the rug.
While doing my walking at the local school district. Apparently the 4th grade class had an assignment on writing an essay about a family member. FAV family member, that is. Of course there were NO I love my stepmom essays. That goes without saying. But one in particular caught my eye.
Here is the synopsis:
I Love My Dad
That's right, my summer. MY CHILDREN'S summer. No one will be coming to my house this summer and making us all miserable. SS has been living with his mom for 6 months. He is now a smoker, drinker, and pot head. After being absent from his life for 5 years ss's mother repays him by being his bff. There is no way he is coming to my home with his new habits. I told DH he can see him whenever he wants just not at our house. Luckily, he understands and is all to familiar with his son's antics. I just don't want this kid in my life ever. I don't want him around my younger children.