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When H is at work, this house is the loudest, most lonely place I've ever been. Plenty to do, but noone to connect or talk with. SS12 and SS7 are inconsiderate, disrespectful and wouldn't know compassion if it walked up to them, made them dinner, gave them candy and said, "Hi, my name is..."
When H is here, I see where they get it. The gloves are off now that we've said "I do." Men talk about they hope their wives don't turn into fat slobs after the wedding. Well, I hoped my H wouldn't turn into a DICK after the wedding and he did just that.
The skids are supposed to be with BM this week. SS10 needed a ride to karate, so I told BM I would take him. He decided this meant that he could come here 2 hours early and "spend time with us". I was tempted to have a fit, but I found I didn't need to. DH immediately said to SS10 "That's fine if you're here, but we're going to act like you're not because it's your mom's week." We proceeded as we usually do when he's not here. We even got to take a nap uninterrupted.
Texting back and forth with FDH to find out if I should come over for my scheduled night tonight (which just so happens to be my birthday). I ask if he's too tired to hang out, he gives ambiguous answer. I ask that if I come over, could he please make sure bedtime is 9am for ME, for HIM, and for FSD3? He says that makes him feel controlled and manipulated and how could I possibly be OK imposing that restriction on our time together.
ARE. YOU. FUCKING. KIDDING. ME?!
So over the weekend DH and I had it out. DH beat me to the punch and stated that if I cannot change my feelings for "HIS BOY" then he was walking. When he told me this I kind of chuckled, not to be mean but because I was going to tell him the same thing this Friday in counseling, as planned.
Any other st'ers childfree? Do you live with your DH or Mister?
If you don't have interest in the sk's how do you handle their visits?
I was wondering if anyone is in this or a similar situation, and how you've handled it.
(saying "I'm not in anything like that but I think you should..." isn't quite what I'm after, but if you have an idea or opinion shout it out anyway!)
First of all things have been great for months !!!!! Still is great I just want your opinion on my feelings (I have NOT said anything to DH about this)
Ok so DH pays cs....Im not jealous, but the sk's are really spoiled now 9 and 8..they dont live with us the visit EOW....BM buys them all the latest game systems, games, clothes & shoes, toys and takes them on tons of trips..Disney World, Seaworld, Moody Gardens,Chucky Cheese, ..and etc
I'm not exactly sure where to start. This is my first time using a forum such as this. I have read through some of the posts already and see the support from everyone, which is great!
So I’ve struggled with the clothes issue in the past. I was the only one that seemed to care, BM, DH and SSs did have the issue i.e. not having season appropriate clothing, wearing clothes DH and I bought to BM’s (the black hole) never to be worn back at our house again – you get the picture.
So a few months ago I said f*ck-it. I stopped keeping track of SSs clothes. Well it came to a head this week when SS10 literally ran out of clothes at our house.
DH is like “what happened,” “I don’t understand,” ”why didn’t you tell me,” “blah, blah, blah….”
BM Nasty saw SS8 & SD7 for 4.3 days last month for her 2nd annual visit…she dropped them off on June 17th and has had zero contact since then.
The Skids have a cell phone for texting their BM (it’s hardly ever used). This cell phone rings & SO answered it as the number wasn’t programmed into the phone. This is the conversation…
SO-Hello?
BM Nasty-I wasn’t trying to call THEM, I was trying to call the bank but I can talk to them if they’re there.
First off, I want to say thank you to all of you for helping me a better stepmom to my SD. I am learning so much by reading here each day. I'm also very thankful I do not have to deal with BM and never will. I think that is a big help in keeping our home on an even keel. I'm also working very hard on trying to make sure I'm not the kind of BM that a lot of your nightmares are made of.
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